My husband and I have kept my pregancy so far as a secret even for my parents and parents-in-law.
My last miscarriage (the baby died around 17 weeks in uterus without obvious signs) has left them heartbroken especially for my own mum. She almost cried her eyse out. So my husband and I have decided to let them uninformed this time. I am happy now that they do not have to go through what we are suffering now. They are in China and the long distance will only left them more devastated and worried. However, I aslo feel alone and helpless.
Thank you girls so much for your warmness and encouragement. I wish you all the best with sincere hearts.
OceanPrincess, your story makes me cry with joyful tears. I wish I could be as strong and lucky as you.
Melbel, with what you have described, I almost see the cute running toddler. I wish one day I could be the same loving mother as you.
This could be a long long Sunday afternoon for me. My husband is busy with gardens. I know he is trying to keep things around. He is a very rational person and wants me to be as him. he told me that never wondering things you could never have control. But I ~~~~~~~
I worried about the results. I dreaded about the decisions I have to make if we are proved to be the one. I worried about the possibilities of any genetic disorder my husband and I might have and we will be left childless.
wongbaby - my dd had a high nuchal measurement aswell and we had the cvs done and were told very scary things when we were pregnant. She is now in the next room dancing to the wiggles! I also have a friend in my mothers grp who had the same and her dd is fine too. I know its hard not to worry. Thinking of you.
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Jun 2004
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i had a similar scare wongbaby, it's awful, waiting for the results.
i had a urgent phone call from the hospital on a Friday afternoon, telling me i HAD to have an urgent amniocentsis test on Monday morning, as the NT scan showed a 1 in 6 chance of Downs.
The weekend went so slowly
I had the test - the idiot specialist, inbetween giving me a consult and actually performing the amnio, decided (without telling me) to OMIT the anesethetic. I will never forget that.
you have to wait two weeks for the test results
when i went in to get the results, the specialist was "on holidays" but no-one had told me
god that was the longest two weeks.
i felt like i was going mad, so even though it was irrational, i went shopping for cot - that sort of baby stuff - looking in the classifieds and visiting people's houses with baby stuff for sale - it kept my mind a bit occupied. i felt i HAD to do something POSITIVE about the baby.
it is SUCH a hard time, the waiting.
the amnio test came back clear. there is a chance of miscarry, just by having the test itself. i was later told, the NT result was false.
it was an enormous stress, going thru the testing.
I can understand your reluctance to tell your parents, what's going on.
I hope your baby is ok wongbaby, enormous hugs to you.
Gigi I just hope the hospital could be effecient to book me into a CVS as soon as early next week. Hopefully it is tommorrow I could get the phone call. Then there will be the long waiting period. Cant image how I could handle the stress. But this is life.Isn't it? My emotions can easily break down.
You can pay an extra $200ish dollars to have the FISH testing done when you have the CVS.....this will give initial results for the five main chromosomes in about 24 hours. That will lessen the waiting time for the down syndrome results at least...if the FISH testing comes back clear it is highly unlikely there will be anything wrong with the other chromosomes...make sure that they explain all this to you wen you see them hun.....
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