very upset...but is there any hope?

**Eng** · February 12th, 2010, 11:19 AM

oh em

You know that if its brown then its old blood.. So Im praying that your baby is sticking..

I think you need to see a different doctor.. I also think you should demand blood tests..

Em as hard as it is.. You really need to try and relax. If you can relax it will help your baby.. Have a cool bath and think positive thoughts hunni..

**Diamond Girl** · February 12th, 2010, 11:39 AM

I cant even imagine what youre going through, but I just wanted to give you a

.

Brown blood is old blood, so hopefully youre out of trouble. I dont know if it will help you, but many of us have had bleeding in early pg and gone on to have beautiful healthy babies. If you need answers now then go and see a Obstetrician, he will give you an u/s on the spot and it may help to calm you down. Please dont think its your fault because it isnt.

I wish you all the best.

**Cassius2** · February 12th, 2010, 11:39 AM

You and your bubba are still in my thoughts babe

DHs like to 'fix' things and make us feel better, we love them because of that, but it is your time to feel sad and you DO NOT have to cheer up/smile/put up a front. you are going through a major time in your life. Maybe just tell him that you need to feel sad right now, but that you love him dearly and his cuddles are wonderful...i think they feel at a loss at what to say or do ITMS.

huge hugs for you babe

**Eenee** · February 12th, 2010, 06:03 PM

My Dad is coming to visit me tomorrow, Mum wanted to also but couldn't because of work. It's over a 4hr drive so it's nice knowing that Dad loves me that much and wants to support me by coming to visit. Will be nice too cause Dh is working tomorrow- so at least I'm not home alone.

I said something to Dh tonight can't remember what exactly but he replied 'it hurts me too' It was just what I needed to hear because Dh is not an overly emotional person so to say that was very big. And I needed to hear it because I kept thinking why am I the only one upset by this? I guess he just has other ways to deal with it.

**mummy2chloe** · February 12th, 2010, 06:16 PM

Hey hun,
i just wanted to say that i am thinking of you and your DH, its so heartbreaking

if i can do anything please let me know.

its so sweet that your dad is coming to be with you, having support and to feel loved when your going through something like this is just what you need.

we are here for you and your hubby hun

thinking of you xxx

**Jahzara** · February 12th, 2010, 06:33 PM

em....

Thinking of you and your DH

I really hope you get some answers soon !

What a wonderful Dad you have

xoxo

**PumpkinZulu** · February 12th, 2010, 06:55 PM

em, I am sorry I have not posted til now; hearing that you are going through this makes me so sad

I have been praying for you every night honey

I am hoping with every fibre of my being that your bubba is fine...lots of

xox

**Twin Sister** · February 13th, 2010, 07:12 AM

Just checking in to see how you are doing. I'm glad the spotting is only brown and am still crossing everything for you for good news next week. Your dad is so sweet to come out and be with you.

**Kazbah** · February 13th, 2010, 07:36 AM

Heys hun, just wanted to give you more support, it must be so horrid for you. But remember the human body and human will is amazing and will do what's needed to survive.

It's good to talk to DH like that, and I know my Dad makes every thing seem ... managed? somehow.

**olly** · February 13th, 2010, 04:39 PM

Em so glad you have supportive people around you. I know what you mean about DH they try to act tough and held together to make you feel better, but really you just want to know that they are as upset as you and your not the only one going through these emotions.

Keeping you in my thoughts hun. Hope the spotting stops, you may not feel like it, but you are doing so well getting through this waiting game.

XXX

**fourthontheway** · February 13th, 2010, 04:44 PM

sending love xxxx

**maybub** · February 13th, 2010, 05:29 PM

Many hugs to you. The waiting is the hardest as it's impossible to get it out of your mind. Try to stay positive and strong. Sending lots of love and support.

**Tanya** · February 13th, 2010, 05:37 PM

Thinking of you.
xx

**belfie** · February 14th, 2010, 10:32 AM

Em - sending you big big

and love, you are SO not a failure and I hope you get some answers soon. Waiting is just so hard, and yes I agree that DH's show and deal with their feelings in such different ways to us - don't underestimate how much he's hurting and how helpless he feels. It does sometimes help to realise you're not the only one struggling