Thanks BG. I had thought of doing something along the verse lines. I know my attitude to this is odd - I have no problem being generous myself with gifts for friends and family and when I find the right gift, I never care what it costs me, I just struggle to accept them back in return. I have even struggled to accept some hand-me-downs from a mate who no longer wants them. I want to pay her something for all the baby gear because she could be selling them on e-bay or something!! Weird huh? I am trying to focus on the fact that the presents will be for Dot, not me, therefore I shouldn't feel guilty LOL!
i'm sooo the same - and have even had a go at one friend who told me off for buying stuff for Gremlin cos we'd "get lots of presents" - i dont' expect presents, and i certainly don't expect people to get exxy stuff (like cot sheets for boori cot) - so i told her i'd buy what i wanted when i wanted. we can afford it, so why not?
i'm very generous with gifts, but don't expect it in return - i don't buy to get something back - i buy because it makes ME happy - i don't expect anything back. actually i lie - a simple thankyou and some gratitude goes a looong way!
Glad to know I'm not the only odd one!! LOL! Sounds like we have a similar independent streak!
I buy for others because it makes me happy too. I need to see it from that point of view - if people buy for Dot, it's because it makes them happy and accepting it graciously (on behalf of Dot), is what I need to do. I've been stressed lately about how disorganised we have been (I feel although we are getting there), and people have made the same comment "Don't worry people will give you heaps of stuff" etc. I just can't see it happening and I hate the perception that I would be automatically expecting it.
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