When is a good time to have my baby shower?? i'm kind of in an awkward position because my birthday is mid april and i am due mid july, i dont want it after my birthday as i worry people will buy presents for the baby and not for me(it happened at christmas and i was veyr upset by it) because its the last birthday i will ever get by myself, so i want it to be about me(is that selfish??). So i want my baby shower to be BEFORE my birthday so people will buy baby stuff for baby shower and other stuff for me on my birthday, btu i dont want it to close because then i'm worried people will stinge out on good presents for me because they spent all the money on baby(again..is that selfish? i want good prezzies its the last proper ones i'll get...) so when is a good time?
obviously next baby i have will be in about 5 years or more and will be planned to be far away from xmas and my birthday to avoid this problem!
Hehe I know exactly what you mean about the dates. My birthday is on the 28th of this month and I will be exactly 34 weeks - I didn't want it before then because of Christmas and so many family members bdays in January. So the baby shower is planned for the 8th of Feb which is not even 2 weeks after my birthday but any later and it's cutting it a bit fine! And yep, I do feel a bit awkward having them close together, and I'll kill anyone who buys me stuff for baby for my birthday! I really don't care about the presents, it's just I feel bad for my friends and family feeling obliged to buy presents for both occasions so close together.
Anyway, so you want it before April? I think that's fine otherwise you can be blunt (like me!) and warn people not to buy you baby stuff for YOUR birthday and then have the shower sometime in May/June.
timing of your baby shower honestly won't change what people will buy for you for your birthday - whether you have baby shower before or after, you're still going to have people that will buy what they want to buy - and unless you specifically say "nothing for baby" aroundy your birthday (which a lot of people would find offensive) you will just have to be gracious and accept that people have at least made an effort to buy you something! i think you're better off graciously accepting any gestures people make, than to feel "ripped off" - your baby is an extension of you - and you may find that people will buy you things that help you out - which isn't a bad thing
from what i've read from others, early in third tri seems to be the best timing for baby shower - you're far enough along to appreciate it, but not so far along as to be too big and exhausted to enjoy it - i'm due May 31, and baby shower will be sometime in March - so around 8-12 weeks before EDD.
ETA - another option is to say "no presents" for your birthday as you are aware people will buy for baby later. i think this will be what i do as my birthday is only a couple of weeks before EDD...
I've already decided if i make invitations then i'm going to write on them not to buy presents for baby, and i've already told a few people that. and they understand why but theyre close friends....
my parents think may is a good time? early may of course because my sisters birthday is mid may so i wouldnt want to outshine that, its not very fair to her!
if it were me i'd be inclined to combine birthday & baby shower. normally i dont do anything for my birthday anyway, but given the option, id combine. personally i wouldnt be worried about what people are going to buy, its a celebration of your baby!
When to have baby shower?
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