DD1 I had in cot in her own room, DD2 I had in bed with me and it was alot easier having her there, no getting up and down in the night I was right there to settle, feed, whatever.
As for DF waking well he actually set up camp in what is now DD2 room and slept in there for first few months, I know thats not for everyone but worked well here, that way he wasn't too tired so took over alot of the cooking/ cleaning while I could concentrate on a newborn.