Thanks for your thoughtful reply Holly. I appreciate it!

I do understand what you are saying about a later termination. Just thought I would mention that I was still being offered a surgical termination depending on my amnio results. Apparently I would still have met the time limits.

If your concern is birthing your baby rather than a surgical termination, it might be worth talking to you doctor further. My regular doctor couldn't do a late surgical termination, but there was another one who could.

Hmm yes I think that I would elect to birth rather than surgically terminate. I'm sure the surgical termination is a good option at 20 weeks. But I just can't get my head around it, I think I would have nightmares for ever. I already did the first time I was told about it! Eeeeek so yes all this confirms that amnio is not a good option for me! I'm glad to have worked that out at least.


After losing a baby at 12 weeks I look at pregnancy differently. I know that with some people as soon as they are pregnant they say they are having a baby. When I'm pregnant, I'm just pregnant and there is no guarantee of a baby, I just take things one day at a time and hope for the best. Anything can go wrong and sometimes it does. So when it comes to taking the risk of having a cvs and an amnio, well I just see that as part of the uncertainty of pregnancy. It is not something I have any control over and certainly not something I chose.
Yes Holly i agree, I feel this way too I think. I am so wary of thinking about 'the baby'. I am just focused on being pregnant. I have always prepared myself for miscarriages, based on my condition, so any pregnancy that works out is a total blessing, not a given, for me.

Thanks again for your thoughts, they have been very helpful!