Also not a dad but please, do what you feel is the right thing for you.
If you want your mum, then ask her. Seems you need all the support that you can get as you DH leaves a lot to be desired during labour and birth!! It is your labour and you need to feel as comfortable as possible.
As for DH, tell him straight out that as he was so unhelpful (ok, useless!) during the first labour, then this time you are going to make it an experience that you WANT to remember. That means mum is coming and you cut the cord. As soon as he can carry a child for the 10 months (no, 40 weeks is NOT 9 months - sorry but my family seem to love overcooking the kids, not one of them has been born by EDD, all have been 11 days or more after), then he can tell you whether you are being selfish. Until then, his opinion is unfounded and completely irrelevant (maybe word that a bit better in the 'talk').
In my case, me DH has decided that he won't cut the cord as he wants to stay at the "head end". Sounds weird I know but he is very phobic about hospitals (has had some tramatic experiences involving them). I was amazed he lasted through my first labour and did a spectacular job.
It is very important that you feel comfortable during your labour and birth so please, ignore his selfish demands and do what you need to!
Last edited by Chocaholic; July 28th, 2008 at 02:14 PM.
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