hi there

my first dd was in our room for the first 2 weeks but she was a terribly noisy sleeper, she hiccuped, grunted, farted, you name it she did it and i just couldn't sleep lol, so she went into her own room in the bassinet. with a monitor.

my second ds was going to be in our room but that lasted only 1 night as dd (21mths at the time) was extremely jealous of the new baby sleeping in our room so we thought it being such a big change for her we would move my son into his own room.

with lani she was as quiet as a mouse and slept in our room till she was around 4mths old and i really missed having her in there with us. we are in a bigger house now and i was a tiny bit worried that ds would see why she was crying in the middle of the night before i got to her and he might of accidently tipped up the bassinet.

as for feeding in the middle of the night - i usually get up and feed with the telly on for light (on mute), this suited me fine. however if they woke up after a feed and needed a top up i just usually popped them into bed to feed, this was so easy with lani as i would then just pop her back in the bassinet without having to get up. also the bassinet was close to my bed so if she got a bit unsettled i would lye in bed and rock the bassinet with one hand lol.

i have counselling with sids and kids due to the loss of my first daughter and my counsellor was telling me that sids and kids do recommend that the babies sleep in the same room (but not co sleep) as there parents for the first six months. something to do with the baby and mother being in sinc with their breathing - dunno if there has been studies on it, just something i was told.

good luck