I had a lot of "headspace" issues and knew that if I found out Liebling was a girl, I would reject her. Whereas it would be harder for me to reject an actual baby. So I didn't find out and bonding with the bumpling went just fine.

Oddly enough, no bonding with the baby, even though Liebling is a boy.

I can't find out with any future babies as I'm not planning on having any scans, so it will have to be a surprise.