Does knowing gender help you bond??

[Butterfly Dawn]

Knowing the gender helped us to choose names which in turn helped us to bond with the baby

[beansbeans!]

Thanks ladies for all your replies.

this morning we went for our 3d scan, and well we found out what we're having but have decided not to tell anyone else. I was surprised at my reaction, I was so sure it was the opposite to we're having, and I can tell from my reaction that I have a heap of expectations as to how important gender was. And thats even though I dont really mind what gender sprout is (I think it was added pressure from everyone around me, as to what they want us to have).
Funny thing though, Im still convinced that the sonographer got it wrong Maybe I can never be pleased?

But the 3d scan was awesome, it was amazing seeing what goes on inside of me And I can say sprout is just as cute as the big sisters!! (not biased at all either :P )

[Tegam]

Thanks ladies for all your replies.

this morning we went for our 3d scan, and well we found out what we're having but have decided not to tell anyone else. I was surprised at my reaction, I was so sure it was the opposite to we're having, and I can tell from my reaction that I have a heap of expectations as to how important gender was. And thats even though I dont really mind what gender sprout is (I think it was added pressure from everyone around me, as to what they want us to have).
Funny thing though, Im still convinced that the sonographer got it wrong Maybe I can never be pleased?

But the 3d scan was awesome, it was amazing seeing what goes on inside of me And I can say sprout is just as cute as the big sisters!! (not biased at all either :P )

congratulations for whatever sprout is

[~Hestia~]

So glad you enjoyed the scan and are feeling more relaxed now! Was wondering how you went

[beansbeans!]

Thanks CM!! It was a great experience, seeing sprout in the scan had an instant impact on me
Although I think for me knowing gender hasnt helped with bonding, but definately seeing sprout in 3D did. So different from the usual scans!

[Kazzo]

3D are really something aren't they Yes we should definately meet up for a coffee one day. We did a park crawl today because Lake Alexandra park is closed ATM so I got to see alot of the area. Love it out there.

[Jennifer13]

It did for us, both times. Particularly this time, because we swayed for a boy, so knowing that didn't work has helped us get over the initial disappointment quickly and get used to the idea of welcoming another daughter.

For us, it makes it seem a lot more 'real', like the little person we are welcoming soon has some parts of an identity of her own. We've almost finished choosing a name, we've spent time getting things ready for her that aren't gender neutral and we talk a lot to DD about how great it's going to be to have a little sister (and to be a big sister). It's been really good for DP as well, because he has a hard time feeling much connecting during pg.

[Kazzo]

That is great news. You sound (as much as you can in a typed form) a lot more relaxed now. I was out your way today and was thinking about how you were going the whole time.

[beansbeans!]

That is great news. You sound (as much as you can in a typed form) a lot more relaxed now. I was out your way today and was thinking about how you were going the whole time.

Thanks Kazzo, I am more relaxed at the moment. The u/sound was an instant bonding session in itself. Seeing a more realistic picture helped a lot, seeing expressions and mannerisms. It was definately worth the money We should meet for coffee one day!

Thanks Megs, we'll be doing the same and not telling anyone. It nice to have a secret between DH and I. We arent telling the girls either because of how fas tthe gossip will spread to everyone!

Thanks tegam

[megs]

Congratulations on having your 3d scan and seeing your little one.

I had a surprise with my first 2 and found out with my last 2. I mainly found out for my last 2 as I needed to know what I was having just given the pressures on myself from everyone (me included) to be having a girl. I honestly can say it didn't change how I bonded with my babies, I didn't bond more or less (we chose not to tell anyone that we know which helps) so whilst we have a name etc it is never said verbally except between DH and I when the kids are in bed. And yes the surprise of finding out at birth is one that you can never beat, seeing what your baby looks like even though you know the gender is special too.

I look forward to reading your birth annoucement and finding out what you little Sprout is.

[Rowellen]

For me - yes. Both times.

[Jennifer13]

Glad to hear it all went well. I wouldn't tell everyone that you know. Surely they'll assume you didn't?

[*Danni*]

Hey hun... So glad things are feeling that bit better for you now I absolutely LOVED my 3D ultrasounds with my DS as I agree, they are so bonding and fun! Nothing beats seeing your baby moving around inside you! I was able to record it and have the DVD and pics as a keepsake which I treasure. It all becomes a memory too quickly. I did also find out the gender (we were lucky enough to find out at 13 weeks!!!) and DH & I kept it between ourselves which we absolutely loved - having something so intimate a secret between us. I would not do it any other way (however on BB I announced it etc). To me, finding out the gender definitely impacted on my bond with my baby. I got the boy I so very much wanted and it really made it so special and intimate knowing in my experience and I would definitely do it the same way next time. I just could not imagine not knowing whether it was my boy/girl inside me!

Good luck with it all


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[Beautiful Disaster]

It helped me cause I had a bit of gender disappointment to begin with. I wouldn't have it any other way now