My XP didn't want me to homebirth. He didn't know about the safety of normal birth or the risks of intervention. I offered him things to read but he also said that it was only pro-HB stuff, so in the end i turned the tables on him.

I told him that i was having a homebirth unless HE brought ME evidence that it wasn't safe. He went off and did his own research. Homebirth IS safe, so after doing his reading he was 100% behind my decision.

Tell him if he can show you why it isn't safe to homebirth you will go to hospital. There is very little that can happen at home that would be less of a problem at home. Even emergencies like cord prolapse, if you look at the figures, are not dealt with faster in hospital. If you have a cord prolapse at home the MW puts you in knee-chest, holds the presenting part of the baby back off the cord and calls an ambulance. The ambulance dispatch page the Ob and send a crew to get you. The crew get you while the Ob is arranging a theatre, you arrive and bubs is born by c section. If it happens in hospital it still often takes about 25-40mins to get a theatre arranged, a surgical team assembled and the baby out. No quicker than if you had to transport from home. And without the risk introduced by careproviders breaking your waters to "hurry things along" the risk of cord prolapse is much reduced at home.

I would put the ball in his court. You care enough about the baby to do your research and find out the facts. If he can't do the same then why should he get to have a say? Don't worry, he can't find medical statistics or studies to prove homebirth is unsafe, because there isn't any, because it's not.

Bx