DD we planned to find out at 20 weeks because we wanted to know! We ended up finding out at 12 weeks after we had CVS, we were so stressed and upset that we wanted something positive to come out of it, so we found out from the chromosomal analysis.

DS, we also planned to find out at 20 weeks, because I wanted to be prepared with clothes - was I washing and getting ready all DD's old stuff? Or did I need to buy boy stuff? We ended up finding out at 12 weeks again, but not because of CVS, because our little man was in a good position. We didn't tell anyone until it was confirmed at 20 weeks though.

If we have another, we won't find out. I want one surprise - although DH says it can only be a surprise once and whether that is at 12 weeks, 20 or 40, does it matter? But I want one time where DH can hold the baby proudly aloft and shout "IT'S A..." whatever it is!