We found out with DS - it was just the excitement of it all, after ttc for quite a while. I wanted to be able to call the baby something other than 'belly bean' and start the bonding process as early as possible. The nursery was gender neutral, though tbh I'm not sure it would've been gender neutral if we thought we were having a girl...

We kept the name a secret so we had a surprise to share with everyone (though it took 12+ hours after he was born and numerous phone calls before anyone actually asked us what his name was or DH remembered to tell anyone, lol!). I couldn't help but feel that finding out the gender as well as examining this gorgeous newborn baby all at the same time would've been too overwhelming for me personally. Having a baby in the first place was huge, let alone adding having an 'unknown' baby - I wanted to be as prepared as I possibly could, mentally and physically. I also wanted to be able to take DS home in gender specific clothes that I'd picked myself, and I couldn't have done that otherwise. I wanted a name picked out and ready to go and that was a huge, huge task when we only had boys names to go through. I can only imagine how much longer it would've taken if we'd needed a girls name on standby too, lol! In other words, I like to be organised!

If we have a second, I won't be so anxious about the 'unknown' (as I'm guessing it would be with you). However, I think I'd still prefer to find out, to be able to start bonding, to have at least one gender specific outfit, to pack away the 'boy' clothes if it's a girl and to mentally prepare myself. I also feel there could be a bit of gender disappointment for me, so having time to get used to one or the other would be good. If we did find out, we'd rethink how/if we told everyone else though, because as a pp mentioned, it didn't feel very special reeling it off in a series of phone calls...

I love, love, love Rosey's idea of having the sonographer write the gender on a card and opening it at a special lunch or ceremony too. That would make it really special.

Can't wait to hear what you decide to do...