Cass, we didnt' find out at all with DD. We had one scan at 19wks and that was it. We had a beautiful surprise at the end of a very LONG labour.

With DS I ended up having 3 scans - 13wks, 19wks and 33wks. We didn't find out at the first two scans, but by 33wks we were still no closer with finding a boys name so we ummed and ahhed and eventually decided to find out so we could make the name game easier. It was amazing to know that whoever it was growing inside of me was actually a boy. We both just melted and it didn't spoil a thing. It made the bonding experience even greater. We didn't tell anyone, and I even bought a few pink things (I left the tags on) just in case they were wrong; but they weren't. We didn't regret finding out for a moment and for me, it was nice to only find out so late in the piece. I'd do the same again next time if I can.

Good luck with your decision making.