Janie - It's funny that you get comments for not finding out, we get people who comment because we did find out. My favourite is 'It's like opening your Christmas presents before Christmas day.' I think it just goes to show that somebody will be unhappy with your choice, no matter what you do. I don't let it get to me either.

I think people who find out and keep it a secret are amazing ... I would let it slip sometime. We start calling our babies 'he' or 'she' as soon as we find out and I would say something without meaning to. I'm hopeless with stuff like that though.