Dee, I know what you mean - I have my days where I look at my fingers and wonder who swapped them for chippolatas
I have put on more weight this time around than I did with DD and I was looking good prior to getting pregnant this time as I had lost all the preg weight so I am a bit disappointed that I have put more on - damn morning sickness that only responded to pasta, rice and bread!!
However, although I am waddling and looking incredibly ungraceful I do know that it is only short-term and I won't look like this forever.
Also I recall saying to DP before I got pregnant again that I had really loved being pregnant. He responded "no you didn't, you were uncomfortable and whingy" but I didn't remember that - I do now!! I think we are programmed to forget the bad things about pregnancy so that we do it again. While I'm sure some women do actually love being pregnant there are many of us who only think they did.
I do and dont like being pregnant............ i love having a bump and feeling all the kicks and moves from my bubs but i hate my body!!!!! I have always been concious of my body and before i was pregnant i was a gym junkie working out twice a day and walking to and from work cuz i dont like being fat or carrying around extra weight........so its a hard transition going from being varely skinny to being large, i do understand however that it is for a short time but i think now that im near the end its harder cuz it seems to be going so slow and everyday i put on a little extra beef and my stomach gets that little bit bigger. I think i have found it more depressing when i go looking for clothes, they just sit really funny and look stupid or dont fit at all, so im sitting here wondering what the hell im gonna wear christmas day?????? I cant show my legs cuz whilst being pregnant i have gained the hideous varicose veins.... only on one leg!!!!! arrrgggghhhhh i just wont this to be over.
Yes some people probably do love being pregnant but i do think a handful of people just say it, cuz its easy to say it when you dont actually look and feel like a beached whale. Im sure in a years time ill say i loved being pregnant to, only for my husband to say NO YOU DIDNT!!!!!!!!
Nai and RainbowGirl - Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings!!!!
It can be very easy to think that you are alone and a horrible mother when everyone around you is saying how wonderful it is.
I know that it's all worth it and it's only temporary but sometimes it really gets you down.
You girls rock for being so honest - have a great chrissy xoxoxox
I remember that, and it can seem taboo to say that you're not 100% impressed.
As Nai says, it's not forever, and I know the discomfort sucks, but I promise people won't be noticing your tuck shop lady arms, or your puffy ankles, they'll just be seeing that glorious belly.
And the cravings - I found it useful when I craved something unhealthy to ask - what's in this that my body is after? Like ice-cream - could you be needing dairy? With me it was slurpees - and apparently craving ice can be a symptom of iron-deficiency (and it was in my cases). So I try to figure out what my body wants, and then substitute for something healthier.
Love the pregnancy, love the bump, love the boobs.
Do not love the acres of stretch marks everywhere EXCEPT my belly (including on one boob only and on one CALF. Who gets stretch marks on their calves?!?!?!!? ), do not love the cellulite, do not love that even my mat pants are now feeling tight.
Do not love how I looked in bathers while on holiday last week.
Do not love having to break to mood in the middle of DTD to ask DH to help me move or put a pillow behind me. Do not love the back pain, rib pain and sausage feet.
In the early stages I felt wonderful to be pregnant- especially when I was at that stage where I could still see my toes but I was 'out there' enough for people to stand up and offer me a seat on the train!! But, when I hit 7 and a half months, things started to change. By 8 months, I was pretty much a hermit- my feet and ankles were so swollen I couldn't wear anything but thongs. I spent last trimester over summer (I don't recommend this!), so whenever I went outside I felt like a big sweaty hefa!! I remember whining to DH about how hard it was to get in and out of the car...lol.
I am normally very slim and fit, and ate pretty healthy during the pregnancy, so I didn't expect the weight gain to get to me like it did. I knew it was healthy weight gain but it still got to me. Not being able to wear any of your normal clothes sucks too.
Thankfully- you will find that the majority of the fluid is lost in the week following the birth, and then breastfeeding assists dramatically with the weightloss process.
Hang in there- you are certainly not alone in feeling this way. It is so normal to want your body back- and then when you get it back- before long, you want to be UTD again!! We women are so weird....lol!!
Yes I hear you!! I cant' wait to have the bub so I can lose weight!! I just dont like being bigger than normal> I too LOVE my baby and watching my bump wriggle, but I feel invisible, overlooked, big, ugly etc. I just feel that and I am careful not to say it as like you said, it's a taboo subject.
I have friends say they love seeing me pregnant because it means Im not thin anymore. That doesn't help..............
Im just hanging out for being able to do something about it, because like you said we can't do the weightloss thing while preggas!
Just wanted you to know there are others out there!! xo
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I remember that, and it can seem taboo to say that you're not 100% impressed.
), do not love the cellulite, do not love that even my mat pants are now feeling tight.
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