how do you really feel about DTD in early pg ?

[Hummingbird]

I'm pregnant with my first and my DH (bless him) has been too scared, he doesn't want to hurt the baby or cause a MC. I have explained that it's OK and the books say that the baby likes the movement etc, but if one of you if tense about it it's not going to be fun so I haven't pushed it.

We had our scan last week and all is looking good so I am hoping to make up for the lost time, lol, esp as I am feeling better and staying up later than 8pm!!

[earth_99]

My GP said no DTD - because I had some bleeding (for 4-5 weeks off and on). When I went to my OB at 12 weeks, he asked when the last bleed was, and it hadn't been for a few weeks, so then he said it was fine to DTD again. I was too sick and we didn't end up doing much for a few months after that :-)

I say just go with what you're comfortable with.

[Nelle]

As you say, you have your whole lives ahead of you. 1st trimester with first baby I freaked out, but apparently the cervix can bleed a little easily (not a problem), which sex can cause. So to bleed after sex is normal, but for me, I just preferred not to have the niggling worry afterwards. Once I was sure the pregnancy was a sticker, I would relax somewhat.

[barney]

thank you all very much,ive still been thinking about it and the more i do i say no more sex im to scared
and nell its so true ok weve had the sex but now im still worrying if the baby is ok or if ill start bleeding oh the worries but now even having spoken to dh i feel so much better and relaxed its like now i know i dont really have to give it to dh cause his not keen on it as well and before i would even get a bit ****ty knowing maybe i should do the deed with dh and didnt really want to but would have as a favour IYKWIM
so i just feel better knowing that me and dh are on the same page the more my pg goes on i think ill be fine ,but honestly thanks girls for being so honest i thought i was a sex looser

[NaeNae]

Congratulations Smithy

As for the no sex - we're 21 weeks + and done nothing since my BFP under Drs orders and TBH I am glad because I was freaking out about DTD whilest pregnant JIC.
FWIW - if you are ok with it there are other ways for him if you catch my drift Thats one thing I have been making sure that DH is still looked after even if it means I miss out. Sorry if TMI

[nic]

DH and I were too afraid in the first trimester as well, Smithy. Not to mention the crinone and pessaries were the biggest turn off for me as well lol.
We DTD a few times in the second trimester, but once reaching the third tri, DH was absolutely freaked out about it all. He was so worried that DS would arrive early if we did. He would get cranky with me if I suggested it and backed him into a corner PMSL...

Completely normal feelings considering all you have been through to be at this special moment in your lives

[edaj84]

I wanted it so much that roles were reversed and it was my DH telling me to go away, he wa tired