How many times have you been pregnant? *Sensitive topic*

**Ahurani** · November 17th, 2011, 06:37 PM

op

**OceanPrincess** · November 17th, 2011, 06:39 PM

Sigh, sorry to derail the discussion...

**skybie** · November 17th, 2011, 06:43 PM

Tegam, as a mum who has had to walk awway from her child i dont see anything wrong with your post.
Before it happened to me i always said i wouldnt be able to do it either, yet here i am
I think its silly u should be beat up for expressing an opinion

love and hugs

**Beach Mama** · November 17th, 2011, 07:02 PM

Gosh BB is full of the most amazing women and I agree that what can turn into a huge horrible fight has been dealt with in the most graceful manner by both people.

Tegam hun, it is something that many people say. It is almost the what to say when you don't know what to say I think

It is so so very difficult for any woman to understand the pain of what so many gorgeous women on here have gone though in losing their babies.
Tash I hope you are getting some support from somewhere right now. xoxo
OP- huge supermassive hugs my love

First baby was a loss at 12 weeks but bub had passed at 8 weeks. I didn't name him/her but remember them every year on my due date.
2 healthy kiddlywinks.

**RainbowBrite** · November 17th, 2011, 07:40 PM

Why did I go back and look this up?

Rach83 · November 17th, 2011, 08:34 PM

I've had three pregnancies. 1 birth march 2010. 1 miscarriage at 5w3d July 2011. Currently 4w5d pregnant but waiting on blood test confirmation tomorrow.

**JennaJayen** · November 17th, 2011, 08:48 PM

OP -

I went back through and read everything, now I need to update my stats - so here they are, and I am being brutally honest as I need to be right now to help myself get my head into a better place.

10 pregnancies, 1 termination due to abnormalities not compatible with life, 6 miscarriages, 2 live births, pregnant with 1 - and one suspected miscarriage that I can't prove from August 2009.

1. termination due to abnormalities not compatible with life - 7wks 4d - 21st Jan 2005
2. m/c - 4th Jan 2006 - approx 8wks
3. m/c - 7-12th July 2006 - approx 7.5wks
4. m/c - 12th August 2007 - approx 5wks + a few days
5. Live Birth - DS - 23rd December 2008
6. m/c - 9th January 2010 - 4wks 2d
7. m/c - 12th March 2010 - 5wks 3d
8. Live Birth - DD - 30th March 2011
9. m/c - 2nd June 2011 4wks + a few days
10. pregnant - edd 7th July 2012

For me currently as long as this baby stays sticky and is born alive it averages out at 3.33 live births per 10 pregnancies.
If I lose this baby then my personal statistics will be 4 losses for every 5 pregnancies.

And yes, I count my termination as a loss - because it was. I was told he would not survive birth, and have since researched that if he did somehow miraculously survive he would have had to be connected to machines for the rest of his life.
I was 17, they told me my best option was to terminate as I was so young and should not have to go through the pain of burying a child. My former boyfriend had already been urging e to have a termination before the scan that changed everything, I had been in tears for 2 weeks, my dad and stepmum said even though they would support me in whatever my decision was they would have to stop trying for their own baby together if I kept my baby (which even though they deny it I think they wanted to guilt trip me into stopping more complications in our already complicated combined family).
I never really had a choice, I had no real support, I had no other viable option, and most people IR always make me feel guilty for having had one, and tell me I should be over it, forget about because "I" made the decision to have a termination. What thy never seem to understand though is that I didn't make the decision - it was made for me by everything else and I was just dragged along for the ride.
My termination hurt more than any other loss I've had, and I've had 6 of them, all around the same gestation or earlier, only one at approx 8wks.

I appologise now if I have offended anyone, I truly hope I haven't because it was not my intention. I am just trying to share my story and what I have been through.

**Chrispe** · November 17th, 2011, 11:15 PM

OP -

I went back through and read everything, now I need to update my stats - so here they are, and I am being brutally honest as I need to be right now to help myself get my head into a better place.

10 pregnancies, 1 termination due to abnormalities not compatible with life, 6 miscarriages, 2 live births, pregnant with 1 - and one suspected miscarriage that I can't prove from August 2009.

1. termination due to abnormalities not compatible with life - 7wks 4d - 21st Jan 2005
2. m/c - 4th Jan 2006 - approx 8wks
3. m/c - 7-12th July 2006 - approx 7.5wks
4. m/c - 12th August 2007 - approx 5wks + a few days
5. Live Birth - DS - 23rd December 2008
6. m/c - 9th January 2010 - 4wks 2d
7. m/c - 12th March 2010 - 5wks 3d
8. Live Birth - DD - 30th March 2011
9. m/c - 2nd June 2011 4wks + a few days
10. pregnant - edd 7th July 2012

For me currently as long as this baby stays sticky and is born alive it averages out at 3.33 live births per 10 pregnancies.
If I lose this baby then my personal statistics will be 4 losses for every 5 pregnancies.

And yes, I count my termination as a loss - because it was. I was told he would not survive birth, and have since researched that if he did somehow miraculously survive he would have had to be connected to machines for the rest of his life.
I was 17, they told me my best option was to terminate as I was so young and should not have to go through the pain of burying a child. My former boyfriend had already been urging e to have a termination before the scan that changed everything, I had been in tears for 2 weeks, my dad and stepmum said even though they would support me in whatever my decision was they would have to stop trying for their own baby together if I kept my baby (which even though they deny it I think they wanted to guilt trip me into stopping more complications in our already complicated combined family).
I never really had a choice, I had no real support, I had no other viable option, and most people IR always make me feel guilty for having had one, and tell me I should be over it, forget about because "I" made the decision to have a termination. What thy never seem to understand though is that I didn't make the decision - it was made for me by everything else and I was just dragged along for the ride.
My termination hurt more than any other loss I've had, and I've had 6 of them, all around the same gestation or earlier, only one at approx 8wks.

I appologise now if I have offended anyone, I truly hope I haven't because it was not my intention. I am just trying to share my story and what I have been through.

Your story won't offend, if anything it might just help someone through a rough time in there own life.

I'll bet you treasure your little darlings even more because of what you have been through.

**mzcatieboo** · November 18th, 2011, 01:34 AM

3 pregnancies... 2 live babies & stillborn baby boy @ 38weeks

**JennaJayen** · November 18th, 2011, 05:09 PM

Your story won't offend, if anything it might just help someone through a rough time in there own life.

I'll bet you treasure your little darlings even more because of what you have been through.

Thank you hun, I really do hope I can help someone else, if nothing else has come from my experiences then to be able to help someone else would be the highest honor I could ever receive xxx

**~*Niadalla*~** · November 18th, 2011, 06:15 PM

4 pregnancies

#1 mc at 8 weeks.
#2 DS born healthy
#3 mc at 5 weeks
#4 DD born healthy.

**LionsandBears** · November 18th, 2011, 07:42 PM

I've only just logged back in after my last post/ meltdown. I know it was off topic & I apologise if that has offended anyone. I was honestly not having a go at anyone. Tegam was not having a go at me at all, in any post. We PM'd each other about it before I logged off. I should have clarified that in here before last logging off.

My opinion is my own and is based on my own experience. It does not necessarily reflect the opinions or experiences of other bereaved parents though I do know some for whom it is similar.

Jennjayen -

I am so sorry for your loss. We never "get over" it. I'm sorry you haven't had more support in your grief.

Go gently all

**trishalishous** · November 18th, 2011, 08:13 PM

ive had 2 pregnancies, but one early miscarriage, and one twin in heaven, one twin here on earth
ttc our next one

**~Ash~** · November 18th, 2011, 08:54 PM

4 pregnancies all up.

I have one gorgeous daughter and one baking now.

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**aussienic** · November 18th, 2011, 10:30 PM

6 pregnancies. 4 healthy gorgeous children.

**damprye** · November 22nd, 2011, 11:25 PM

4 confirmed pregnancies. I have two beautiful earthside baby boys <3

**BeautifulMadness** · November 23rd, 2011, 06:42 AM

3 pregnancies 2 boys n one due

**KimB** · November 23rd, 2011, 07:41 AM

7 pregnancies and 6 live children. I have lost 1 each of 2 sets of twins and had a termination. I felt so sick and I was in so much pain they thought I had an ectopic and I was told I was bleeding down my fallopian tubes before I had the termination, also I had not been in a relationship long (sneaky bubs got through the condom) and we were not prepared for it. Straight after I had the procedure I felt fine, so to me, my body was telling me there was something wrong with my baby. My now exh and I went on to have 2 beautiful boys. I do still think about the baby that could have been, but know it was the best decision at the time. Doesn't stop the guilt though