I didn't have a newborn and a baby so I can't answer that bit, but like Cassius I chilled out a whole lot with number 2. Poor Darcy, I was so concerned with what she wasn't doing that I missed out on all the good stuff.

Nate didn't do anything I wanted him to, the little rat, but I soaked up each and every bit - even the ones where hours escaped with me pacing and singing. I co-slept with Darcy but was more concerned getting her into her bed, with Nate I sold the cot before he was one (never used for him), with Darcy I fed on routine, but demand fed with Nate.

I didn't worry about anyone else's 'shoulds'. I am comfortable in my parenting. I don't feel the need to battle people who think differently about it all any more, it's just how we roll here.