We didn't follow such a strict routine with dd2, she was demand fed and we followed her cues with bls. Dd1 still hates her routine being broken. With Ds he just fits into our routine, he had a capsule so I could get him in and out of the car if he was asleep. The girls have their own babies they love looking after and when I was bfing I would ask the girls to help get a blankie etc so they felt involved. We also give each child one on one time.