Over being told it will be 'EASY' for me!

[helle]

I have told people i am not scared of the 'physical' pain as i really don't remember much with DD's birth

I don't really remember much with Jayvan's birth either, pain wise (I know it's not the same as a full term birth, but I still went through labour... had contractions....)
I think when people say you had it easy they aren't thinking about the other things you are faced with at the time (EG, birthing a dead baby, or in your case having little feet hanging out of you in the middle of your bathroom with no one in cooey!) which certainly would not have been easy!

I guess what I'm trying to get at is when you are faced with more conerning matters, especially when it involves your children, pain is really the last thing you are wanting to think about... Sorry, my brain... it's pregnant you know XD

Anyway...Some people should just shut their mouths, really

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Teagz hun i love you to bits and i know exactly what you mean!

Thanks Lily Dust... my mum says if we remembered the pain no-one would go back for more

[helle]

Teagz hun i love you to bits and i know exactly what you mean!

Thanks Lily Dust... my mum says if we remembered the pain no-one would go back for more

Oh good.. haha. I have a similar situation at work. A girl I work with constantly goes on about how easy it will be and I should to work up until I'm ready to pop because I "just sit down all day". I freaking hate sitting down all day. My feet go all fat from lack of moving/circulation, my pubic bone hurts because of the whole pelvis/relaxin thing and my ribs hurt because I have a babys butt in them!
I'd much rather spend the day having a waddle around in a nice garden somewhere

[briggsy's girl]

Teagz - don't discount the labour you went through with a pre-term birth hun. i lost one of my angels at (we think) something like 10-12 weeks (not sure due to no cycle). i had contractions for 12 hours to pass the fetus - and it hurt similarly to my induced labour. so the physical pain is still there - your cervix still has to open significantly.

AM - tell those that are saying you did it easy to take a hike. seriously! every person that has had a child has had hardship, both physical and emotional, to deal with. just because my journey has been different to yours, doesn't make either journey easier or harder - just different. there are parts of every journey that we will envy in others.

ignore their crap - and just do your thing. if you have an unsettled baby this time, so be it. you'll learn to work with that. if you have a long (or shorter) labour this time, you'll live with it. i think you and i are similar in that there is no point dwelling on the negatives - in the moment, they're damn hard to cope with, but when they're over, they're done, time to move on.