People's reaction to The Announcement - Suggestions?

[Toomanytoomany]

Congratulations! Both my parents come from families of 7 kids, and big families are so much fun!

People just say those things because of ignorance and they have nothing better to say. Perhaps just point out 'oh we don't view children as a burden, we see them as a blessing, so we feel really lucky to be expecting another!'

So 'oh you'll have your hands full!' Say, 'yes, we're really looking forward to it' - or a favourite of mine 'we'd rather full hands over empty hands any day'.

All the best with your pregnancy, people have been having large families for many many years! (perhaps point that out too :P)

It's so nice to hear the word "congratulations"! I've spent this week freaking out - but I'm having a baby... that's a good thing!

It *is* nice having a large family. Our five kids are fairly spread out in age, and it's a lot of fun, particularly at Christmas and other times like that. There will be nineteen years between this baby and the eldest. (That makes me sound very old - I'm only thirty eight!)

These suggestions are helpful. It is just so amazing what people will say about a pregnant woman, isn't it?

[aussienic]

Congrats

When we fell preg with number 4 ( I had 3 boys) All we heard was.. oh going back for that girl are you yada yada. Eventually my husband turned around and said no.. We are hoping to finally get one we like.. Or we stuffed up the first 3 thought we might give it another shot

Hoping for a happy and healthy Pregnancy

[Toomanytoomany]

Congrats

When we fell preg with number 4 ( I had 3 boys) All we heard was.. oh going back for that girl are you yada yada. Eventually my husband turned around and said no.. We are hoping to finally get one we like.. Or we stuffed up the first 3 thought we might give it another shot

Hoping for a happy and healthy Pregnancy

Heheh, that's great.

I've got five girls now... so yes, I can imagine we'll get the "trying for a boy" comments. And if it *is* a boy, there'll be comments, and if it *isn't*, there'll be comments. To be honest, I think those comments hurt the most because they necessarily put down the girls. I *LOVE* my girls!

[aussienic]

Heheh, that's great.

I've got five girls now... so yes, I can imagine we'll get the "trying for a boy" comments. And if it *is* a boy, there'll be comments, and if it *isn't*, there'll be comments. To be honest, I think those comments hurt the most because they necessarily put down the girls. I *LOVE* my girls!

I feel exactly the same!! And when they comments are made in front of my boys I feel so bad for them.. I usually bring it up later and say we love them and we didn't have another baby cus we wanted a Girl.. We tell them we wanted another baby cus they made us so happy we wanted more..

the comments never end... and if you do get a boy and then decide on no more people will say.. Well you got your boy now you can stop.. I feel so bad for my boys when people say those comments..

[Toomanytoomany]

the comments never end... and if you do get a boy and then decide on no more people will say.. Well you got your boy now you can stop.. I feel so bad for my boys when people say those comments..

You know, that's exactly right.

A couple of times this year someone has asked me how many kids I have and I've said "five" and they've said, "How wonderful! How lovely for you!" and that has been just such a lovely change.

I think if I didn't feel so stupid or irresponsible in myself (this was totally unplanned and not a very good move for me in many ways) I probably wouldn't be worrying so much what everyone else thinks. Dd5 was a delightful "oops" and I just feel like at my age, I should be beyond that, you know? It's like that line out of the Importance of Being Earnest: once is an accident, twice looks like carelessness. Or something like that.

[Rouge]

I read once that someone had said to a girl "Don't you own a tv" to which she replied "If you prefer TV you're doing it wrong!" Another is yeah I slipped and fell on a banana peel

[[M]umma[M]ia]

congrats

my advice to you is... who cares what anybody else thinks. what does it matter? dont let THEIR opinions get to you. its not worth it.

[~Aveta~]

You know, that's exactly right.

A couple of times this year someone has asked me how many kids I have and I've said "five" and they've said, "How wonderful! How lovely for you!" and that has been just such a lovely change.

I think if I didn't feel so stupid or irresponsible in myself (this was totally unplanned and not a very good move for me in many ways) I probably wouldn't be worrying so much what everyone else thinks. Dd5 was a delightful "oops" and I just feel like at my age, I should be beyond that, you know? It's like that line out of the Importance of Being Earnest: once is an accident, twice looks like carelessness. Or something like that.

well i for one believe babies come to you when THEY are ready, and so it's meant to be! all my pregnancies when i was younger were contraceptive babies, and even last Dec when i fell pg with Joshua. so i'd be more likely to say to rude people "well actually, we're trying for a rugby sevens team" and walk away laughing. some of my friends come from larger families, and they tell me wonderful stories of growing up with a houseful of siblings.

congratulations and best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy and bub!

[Gecko]

Congrats
-you are very blessed !
Also, i only care about commends, from people I CARE about, so don't worry about it ! what does it matter what they thing, the most important thing is that you guys are happy !
everything happens for a reason ... people also make the mistake to judge by their own standards ...

[visitor1]

Im only on #3 and also my 3rd DD...and i always get the comments of 'Oh you going to try for aboy next' 'your brave' etc

And i simply say 'No..i love my girls and i was blessed to be able to have 1 child let alone 3 darlings...'

Shuts em up quickly.