You know, that's exactly right.

A couple of times this year someone has asked me how many kids I have and I've said "five" and they've said, "How wonderful! How lovely for you!" and that has been just such a lovely change.

I think if I didn't feel so stupid or irresponsible in myself (this was totally unplanned and not a very good move for me in many ways) I probably wouldn't be worrying so much what everyone else thinks. Dd5 was a delightful "oops" and I just feel like at my age, I should be beyond that, you know? It's like that line out of the Importance of Being Earnest: once is an accident, twice looks like carelessness. Or something like that.

well i for one believe babies come to you when THEY are ready, and so it's meant to be! all my pregnancies when i was younger were contraceptive babies, and even last Dec when i fell pg with Joshua. so i'd be more likely to say to rude people "well actually, we're trying for a rugby sevens team" and walk away laughing. some of my friends come from larger families, and they tell me wonderful stories of growing up with a houseful of siblings.

congratulations and best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy and bub!