I've only just seen this Meggles and haven't read all the replies fully.
babe. Totally empathise.
My ANA is horrendous. After the first pregnancy I knew it would come back with another and it did.
Are you booked into a hospital yet? Talking to the midwives really helped. I did see a psych but her and I did not gel, so I stopped that quick smart. In the end I ended up medicated and on Aropax. Not for everyone, but I just could not function. All my previously successful coping strategies were doing nothing. I know it's not for everyone (and previously I would have said it wasn't for me), but it changed my life - for the better.
I'm truely happy for a chat if you need. Just let me know.