Tan- Writing a letter is a great idea!
It's sad that some of these doctors spend all this time in school but dont learn people skills, when thats what their job is all about! She has probably never felt what its like to have a little wonder inside her and cant see why its so important to you to do it the natural way.

Dont let this reak your VBAC birthing experience and dont give that woman another minute of your thoughts, she doesn't deserve it. Except while you're writing the letter

Keep your head high! And just remember, he's HEAD DOWN!!!!