Yep, Erin, I'm scared *****less! We hadn't planned on our babies so close together, I mean 2 under 16mths....that's insane! But that's where we are and I guess that's where we're meant to be. When you are ready and the time is right then it will happen. I truely believe that. And you'll be right. You do what you have to. And to me, the hardest part was over after 12mths. These 12mths have really flown. If it all goes so quickly with this one, then it'll be getting easier before I know it!!That's what I keep on telling myself anyway .
My girls will be 4 years apart. Main reason for me being so scared was the reaction i would get from DD#1 about having another sibling to compete with for attention. At first she was great, but now shes gone ferrel, it could be that shes just having a little brat time but i honestly think its got alot to do with me being pregnant and being so excited about another baby. Don't get me wrong, she is excited about having a sister but i think shes starting to realise more everyday what it means not to be an only child anymore.
Hope im not scaring you cause it was not my intention at all, honestly i kinda wish i had a 2nd earlier, shes already had so long being an only child, whereas if she was 2 then i think she would handle it a little differently, maybe not understand it as well but not be so jealous about it.
I'm glad i didnt wait the original 10yrs between them as i planned. lol.
I'm sure you'll cope fine with 2 kids, i have my doubts everyday but i think it will actually be a little easier this time around because i know what to expect more.
while my gap is 5 years and 2 months-ish.. i have been worried bout the unknown 2nd time around, i had a pretty great birth (altho still have some questions)
when DD was under 2 the thought of another one scared the pants of me too!
DD is really looking forward to a new bro/sis, i regret in someways of having a big gap.. but then we put it off due to trying to get healthier, interstate move away from family & time to settle.. so in the end its good timing for us.. however it will be nice to have DD at school next year and while she is at school i can give more focused attention to the then 6month old without upseting DD.
I wouldn't worry about people telling you the right gap to have and that it's easier one way or another. If you're not up for it, don't do it yet. No drama having a gap (ok, so Im pro gap, my eldest is 10, second 2.5 and Im pregnant...just). My sister has two very close. I don't see either as right or wrong, but I have found it amazing having the gap and that's why I wanted DD2 to be at least 3 when we had another, I just couldnt' do it closer together.
It's your call, don't feel pressured by anyone. When you feel less anxious about it, you'll know the time is right .xoxo
i know how you feel too.
i always thought i'd want my kids really close in age, but circumstances have led to a three year gap (not that far i know!) i still wonder if i will cope, tho it's abit late now! but i've come to believe that things do have an element of fate involved and that this is how its supposed to be. i just keep telling myself that i know more now about what to expect, the good and not so good, and i look at my boy and i know that we are making another little person to love in the amazing way we love him and he loves us.
oh i go through times of sheer panic and think "what have i got myself into !!!" but it does pass and thoughts and feelings change ...
situations change too ... before i fell pg with this one i was having a period of anxitey and panic attacks and was in a really dark place ... dh wanted a bub and i was scared out of my mind ... in my eyes it was only ever going to be DS ...
but now after some counselling and getting better , one day i felt i was just ready ... it all fell into place .... and now im looking forward to another babe .... (excpet for the times i freak out )
realax , you will get to have your 2 kids ... weather its now or in 4 yrs time ..... its totally up to you and dh , you will both find a right time .... dont rush it if it doesnt feel right !!
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That is what I keep telling myself too!!! They have to get 18 years old someday!!
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