Scared at thought of another..anyone else feel this way?
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DH & I want 2 kids and we always wanted to have them fairly close together...we are always told being close in age is good, etc & so on.
Thing is Charlie is now 15months old & the thought of having another baby scares the pants off me for so many reasons...to the point that I get anxious just thinking about it. Is this normal LOL (what is normal) - has anyone else felt this way?
Now that I know what happens in labour etc I'm very scared of what can go wrong, even though first time round it was all fine. Before it was the unknown & now it's the known.
Charlie is not a great sleeper & things were very tough in the first few months. We don't live near any family & some times I don't handle things the best. I've actually been thinking I would just love to spoil Charlie & have no more kids...but I would love him to have a playmate. We've been talking about trying again soon as the gap now will be at least 2yrs provided all went well..........but I'm just to scared to start.
I was in the same boat as you - knew the benefits etc - but was scared like crazy. It does pass. Maybe you might need to review your spacing a little to allow yourself a bit more time.
Thing is I am actually glad that I am pg and that I am going to be "finished" with my family this early and that the kids are going to be so close together. That does not mean that I am not scared. I am scared of the birth (having a c/s - again - long story), scared that this one is also prem, scared that this one is also a little colic "angel", scared that this one is big and I won't know how to handle a big baby (!?!?!?!), scared that I won't be able to cope with two kids, seeing that DD is STILL NOT SLEEPING THOUGHT!!!! UGGHGHGH.
But I think it's normal. Someone told me once that your first baby you have because you like the idea ( I don't realy know how to explain this) but you are not aware of what you are getting yourself into, kwim, so it's chasing the dream, your second baby is an informed choice. Scared or not, only you and your partner can make that choice.
I still most days think I was nuts getting pg again so soon, but just this weekend I held a gf's baby and .... I can't wait for my bundle of joy ... or hell ... whatever ... I can't wait!!!
Yep, Erin, I'm scared *****less! We hadn't planned on our babies so close together, I mean 2 under 16mths....that's insane! But that's where we are and I guess that's where we're meant to be. When you are ready and the time is right then it will happen. I truely believe that. And you'll be right. You do what you have to. And to me, the hardest part was over after 12mths. These 12mths have really flown. If it all goes so quickly with this one, then it'll be getting easier before I know it!!That's what I keep on telling myself anyway .
My girls will be 4 years apart. Main reason for me being so scared was the reaction i would get from DD#1 about having another sibling to compete with for attention. At first she was great, but now shes gone ferrel, it could be that shes just having a little brat time but i honestly think its got alot to do with me being pregnant and being so excited about another baby. Don't get me wrong, she is excited about having a sister but i think shes starting to realise more everyday what it means not to be an only child anymore.
Hope im not scaring you cause it was not my intention at all, honestly i kinda wish i had a 2nd earlier, shes already had so long being an only child, whereas if she was 2 then i think she would handle it a little differently, maybe not understand it as well but not be so jealous about it.
I'm glad i didnt wait the original 10yrs between them as i planned. lol.
I'm sure you'll cope fine with 2 kids, i have my doubts everyday but i think it will actually be a little easier this time around because i know what to expect more.
Scared at thought of another..anyone else feel this way?
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most days 
... whatever ... I can't wait!!!
That is what I keep telling myself too!!! They have to get 18 years old someday!!
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