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so tell me, how do u do it?
everyone....
so im having a bad day.....
im on total bed rest at home to try and keep baby in for another 2 weeks due to incompetant cervix. i have a stitch in but my cervix isnt playing ball hence the bed rest....
and im over it.....
ive spent more of the last 18 months on bed rest than i havnt, ive also spent more of the last 18 months pregnant than i havnt.
im sick of the aches and pains of pregnancy, im sick of being told what i can and cant do, im sick of not being able to leave my house unless DH is home to take me where i need to go but lasts 5 mins coz the pressure is to much.
how the hell do u mentally get over this?????
id really like to know coz today the rate im going i feel like ill end up in a institution before this baby is born.
** and yes i know there are people a LOT worse than me, and that have been through a lot worse to have their babies**
there is only so much telly, Facebook, BB stalking, and searching the net i can do everyday......
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I have no advice but wanted to send you a big hug. Pregnancy can be a rough time, especially when people except you to be full of joy when in fact so often you are bored, in pain, or disconnected from the growing baby. It's ok to feel like that, and you don't need to compare your situation with others because it's always worse when it is happening to you.
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I don't know hun, thinking of you and hoping someone can give you some advice. Hang in there the blessing at the end of all of this will be well worth it.
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hun i have no idea how u are doing it but i applaud u for ur huge effort!!!
i hop eu feel better soon
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Keep on keeping on hun....your doing a marvelous job and it will all be totally and completely worth it!!
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me too
I can only imagine how frustrating it must feel to be cast into the role of incubator and not be able to do other things as well.
To take your mind of things, do things like craft, reading etc help at all? Can you make things for bub? research your family tree online, make photobooks?
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I don't have any advice but I can relate, I was on bed rest from 30 weeks, hospitalised at 35 weeks because it wasn't working and finally birthed at 37 weeks.
Any new dvd's you want to see? Do you sew? Drawing, painting? Ever tried writing a short story? Paint a funky design on your finger nails? Into xbox/ps/wii, get a new game that you can play sitting down?
You're doing a great job, hang in there
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thank you all for ur
ive been putting it off so DH isnt running round like a looney but i think ill get him to make the butterlies i want for her wall so i can paint them, that will fill in a day or 2....
thank you for the other suggestions, thankfully MIL brings me magazines so they keep me going for a little while as well....
i guess its just a waiting game i have to stick out for another 2 weeks, then ill be allowed to do what ever...... i hope!
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It is tough, I was in a similar situation just before Ds was born I was over being pregnant, resting and not being after look my girls. I decided three in four years was enough.
You are almost there, prob doesn't help much but you have one last hurdle before it's over. Maybe write a journal of your journey to put away.
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sorry hun i missed ur post......I don't have any advice but I can relate, I was on bed rest from 30 weeks, hospitalised at 35 weeks because it wasn't working and finally birthed at 37 weeks.
Any new dvd's you want to see? Do you sew? Drawing, painting? Ever tried writing a short story? Paint a funky design on your finger nails? Into xbox/ps/wii, get a new game that you can play sitting down?
You're doing a great job, hang in there
there is talk of being put into hospital next week depending on what my scan shows and well thats when ill loose it, i just want to be home and comfortable.....
might get DH to hook the wii back up i think, that will help fill in some time as well.
thank you...
whoever said pregnancy was fun and beautiful needs their head read!
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Mm, the same people who say that birth is fun and beautiful (rather than it can be ridiculously painful and there's a lot of mess!!).
You have done SUCH AN AWESOME JOB getting to this point, I've been following your progress when you pop up here and there and I'm in awe of your patience and how well you've done. It doesn't matter how many people have it worse than you do, they're not you
Is there anyone who can come and play some board games with you? Another thing (don't laugh) is colouring-in books. I used to take them on long-haul overseas flights, because there is a point where you can't do much and you don't want to watch movies or read... colouring in gives you a sense of achievement and means you can focus on something a bit mindless but still passes the time....
Big hug, hope the next couple of weeks fly for you.
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Hey hun, just wanting to see how you were holding up?
I saw your thread the other day but i didn't get to reply at the time xx
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Aww darling!! I feel for you!!
I am not on bedrest but I have just moved to a new place, I know 1 other person here apart from DH and his army buddies, I have no friends, no job, no family, not a single thing to do so I understand the crazy feeling... I am over being sore and tired and bored and alone... I get it... Maybe not for 18mths though!! I ration out the things on my to do list, like setting up the pram, watching gossip girl/movies, looking forward to Ellen and Oprah everyday, ebaying and googling everything I can possibly think of etc... It's soo hard.
BUT at the end of this.. which for both of us is not far off at all! It will be totally worth it.. We will have these amazing little beings that we grew and cared for inside of us in our arms, in our homes. It'll all finally be over and we can eat what we want when we want, we can stop waddling and struggling to get up and down.
You have done an AMAZING job getting this far, and you will make it the enxt couple of weeks... you will be an amazing mum soon. Just keep picturing bubs in your arms, make DH buy you a book (or 5! lol), rent as many DVD's as you can, maybe paint something? A canvas or something... Do the bubs baby book, write your baby a letter to give them when they are older...
Keep your chin up darling!!
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Hi Crumpet,
you should pm me and we can be bored together.
I'm 26+5 today and in hossy on bed rest until delivery. Bored and over it and it's not even a week yet. Doesn't help that the staff have just taken my single room off me for an emergency and last night only had 1 hours sleep.
I hate hospital!!!!
Thinking of you Hun,
Take care
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ill pm u for sure!!!
oh no, hospy bed rest is the WORST!!!! i feel for u hun
ive avoided it so far, see the OB on tuesday for my 32w check up and imthat ill be able to talk him round, he did say once i got to 32 he would pull out all stops to get me to 34w, and said meaning more than likely ill prop u up in hospital, over my dead body ive managed to keep things going from home i rekon i can do it for another 2 weeks now!!!
thanks hun.....
am feeling a lot more mentally balanced and stable now, the other day was a baaaaaad day!!
i tend to struggle once every couple of weeks, so hopefully thats my melt down over until she is here now.
have had a nice weekend with DH home 2 days instead of 1 so that has helped a lot!
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I spent 10weeks on bedrest, (4 after DS/twin 2 became an angel and 6 after DD/twin 1 threatened preterm labour) and there was no solution to boredom!
I did loads of reading, collected bags of clothes off freecycle and sorted/donated the ones I didn't want, wrote emails, took photographs, scetched/painted, packed (as we were moving interstate) then sold heaps of stuff on ebay...
hope it passes quickly for you *hugs*
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