swine flu risk at party, to go or not to go?

[melbrodhi]

HI, i have a dilema.

i am 32 weeks pregnant. a close friend of mine has her DS's birthday party next weekend, him and my DS are good mates. i just found out her sister has swine flu. im not sure her sister will be coming to the party, but even if she dosent her kids and also my friends mum will be there, all of which have had close contact with her.

the party is at a small party room at one of these play centres, so in a confined space. if it was outside i wouldnt be worried as much.

now i know you can catch it from anywhere, going shopping etc etc but this would be knowingly putting myself at risk, if that makes sense?? i do not feel comfortable going now knowing this, and i wouldnt send my DS with DH instead of me, cause its exposing them to the risk too and then they could pass it to me. so it looks like we wont go. i havent told my friend yet, but i know shes going to be really really annoyed and will probably think i am just being silly.

what would you do?

[Miss E]

If it was me I would probably be doing the same thing... IMO It's just not worth taking the risk ? for you or your bub. I think your friend will probably understand, especially since she's had children of her own and knows what it's like to be pregnant, and if she doesn't then don't feel bad because it's her problem, you'd just be doing what you think is right by your bub and there is nothing wrong with that.

[willow5]

I don't think I'd be going either the risk seems to outweigh the benefit.

[NaeNae]

Its tricky but I would just be very honest with your friend and simply say you won't be going because her sister has Swine flu and potentially her children will likely to be carriers of the virus. Also mention that pregnant women are considered to be high risk and that you really don't want to risk catching it.

Your friend will probably be upset and a little disappointed but that will only be because she will be wanting you there. She will get over it and may even understand your reasoning.

FWIW - at least you know about the Swine Flu factor in this case, I am sure there are many many people out there wandering about and sitting in close quarters to others that have the virus or have been in contact with people who have had the virus and you would be none the wiser.

[Taurean]

I wouldn't be going. I worked my last 4 weeks from home due to so many people in the office having the normal flu which I thought was bad enough.

I know you can catch it anywhere but if I knew for sure that someone had been infected, I'd be avoiding them and their family where possible.

A tough decision but you would hope that others would understand. I sure would!

[Rommy'sMummy]

There is no way I would go - or have DH go either. A friend of mine is 31 wks pg and has swine flu. Horrid. She is really stressed out and feeling absolutely dreadful, being monitored very closely by the hospt and her OB. I wouldnt risk it for the sake of not annoying someone for a day.