What is with people?? *rant*

[Lana]

When people make those sort of comments you have to remember that it is all about them, they are not necessarily thinking about you and your experience. No one can possible know what this will be like for you, what type of baby you will have. People will offer their stories for a whole range of reasons some think they are really being helpful, some are patting themselves on the back for their parenting and some people who have had/are having a rough time look back fondly at times that seemed easier. You forget the end of the pregnancy once you are in baby/kid world so "just" having to look after you seems like it was a better place and you forget how uncomfortable it really was.

We've had a rough start to parenthood and it wasn't what I was expecting at all. I have wanted to share that with friends who are expecting as I want them to be prepared and know that it is ok if it is hard and may not be all sunshine and it doesn't make you abnormal. So that is all about me as I have found it hard when others have talked about how easy their babies have been as I didn't want to feel like I was hopeless because it has been hard for us. However everyone's experience will be so different so as you say getting all these stories at this point isn't helpful as you can only experience one stage at a time and you are just trying to get to the end of this pregnancy. I have had friends who say after the birth "Why didn't anyone tell me it would be like this" and I just think until you get there there is no point in telling people stuff as it just isn't relevant to where they are at and they can't take it in. When you have had the baby and need advice other people's experiences will be valuable just not right now.

Parenthood is an amazing journey. Not only do you share in growing a new little person you learn things you never knew about yourself and you too grow in the process. And no matter whether you get more or less sleep than you are currently getting you will get through it because that's just what Mum's do. Hope you find a way of getting some more rest before bubs arrives.