Hi lyra stardust,

This is us right now. DD will be nearly 5.5 yo when this one is born, I wanted a much closer gap, say less than 3 years. We had some issues ttc DD (took 13 mths & 2 m/c) so I wasn't thinking it was going to be all roses in ttc # 2. We started ttc # 2 when DD was about 12 mo. During that time we endured another 3 m/c, had some breaks, did clomid, accupunture & chinese herbs, saw a naturopath, did 3 rounds of IUI (all failed), took another break then did two rounds of IVF & were fortunate to fall pg on the second round.

I posted in another thread about being at crossroads with the decision to continue ttc for another child or dealing with the possibility that DD would be an only child. I talked endlessly with my DH about this b/c I grew up with siblings, whereas he was an only child growing up. He said it wasn't as bad as what I was thinking b/c he didn't know any different. He said sometimes it was boring & lonely home at nights & that was all. (He has step brother & sisters that he started to see when he was 21 yo.)

The decision for me (us) to keep ttc another child was that there was something instinctual that was telling me there was another child to join our family, I just didn't know when or how. I then had to make the decision whether or not we'd keep ttc via AC or natural & obviously that decision was made for us b/c I am expecting within the next two weeks.

My feelings of wanting another child increased so I wasn't happy with DD being an only child & that is what made me continue to ttc # 2. I'd have many more children if it wasn't so difficult for us but I am (so far) at peace that we will have one more to add to our family of three.