Hi FG,

I think what you are feeling is totally normal, well I feel that way anyway!

I'm speaking from the point of view of someone who has sat on both sides of the fence, I have a 4 year old DD conceived naturally and with no problems and a problem free pg and birth. I'm still not really sure whether I had a problem all along and we just got lucky so to speak with her, or if the problems appeared after her birth I suspect the first is the case though. Conceiving our 2nd child however has been a challenge to say the least, with miscarriage and fertility treatments over the last 2 years.

I have often looked back over the last 18 months or so to my pg with DD with nostalgia, I never worried about miscarriage, ob visits or scans or anything at all going wrong. I just enjoyed it and it was a wonderful time of my life. This time around though has been exactly like you describe, constant worry about the next scan, ob visit and what might go wrong I'm only just starting to think that maybe with actually will bring this one home, especially as I have had a few good ob visits in a row now and have also started to feel movements in the last week or so. So I hope that as time goes on you also will start to relax and enjoy being pg more. Maybe the feeling of cheated won't go away totally, but it will be pushed more to the back of your mind by everything else that is happening and the wonder of your growing baby.

As for the CS, trust me when they give you your baby you won't care how he or she arrived, you will just be so happy to finally hold them

Here's to a happy, healthy and stress free pregnancy

All the best!