Hi Shell,

I think you started this thread ages ago, but I just wanted to say - I feel totally the same way! After 3+ years ttc, I can't believe that I would care what gender this bub is! But I really think i will be surprised and disappointed if "she" is not a girl.

Your post has actually helped me name something I hadn't realised...the fear/possibility that this may well be our only child. I don't think I could go through another 3+ ttc years.

On that note, after suffering infertility, everything about pregnancy IS different to those who haven't been through this. The perspective is different, the questions are different, I think.

Hope you're going ok.