Parenting after LT TTC #3

[onthefly]

I didn't seem to lose hair. Waited for it and it never happened.

But yeah, the cat has it bad (lol Kelly)

Weight-wise, well I gained 20kg when pregnant. I lost 13 or so within the first few weeks (obviously including DS' weight ). Then plateaued for ages. Note - did NO excercise and started eating chocolate etc again... Then after I stopped working full time at around 11 months and started getting out for walks I started losing again. Lost another 6-7. since then have yo-yod a bit, up and down 1-2 kg. You know how it goes. Good girl loses weight, bad girl gains... sigh.
But, my shape is different. Definiately carrying more on the waist. yuck. but (and this is an important note) have done roughly 20 sit ups since giving birth, so this is surely a factor.

My mum reckons she never lost her baby weight (which in her case woulda been, like 2kg or something) until she stopped breastfeeding. Hormones are in flux in the early months too, remember, so might just take a bit to settle down.

How's things BW? Hope you've had a bit more time to process thiings now.

Lenny, you have to tell us all about your new boy. And yes, you are the wise woman who's done this more than once now!

Some days I feel so fat and frumpy I just put my maternity clothes back on and dare anyone to ask when I'm due

[MissMagpie]

Good morning girls,

Hope you all had a good Australia Day

Kelly - Im not looking forward to malting! My DP already says that my hair is everywhere, lol Because it is long, I just naturally had strands clog up the shower already so hope I dont lose CLUMPS!

Grub - sorry cant shed any light on the weight loss issue. My tummy is all flabby and I have that nice "over hang" thing happening Ive lost most of what I gained while pregnant, I had lots of fluid so have dropped nearly 20kgs but I was already overweight before I got pregnant so have LOTS more to lose. My OB has said if I want to try for another baby, that he "ideally" would like me to lose 20kgs Good luck and let us know if you find the secret!!!

BW - hope things are better for you today although I dont envy you going to work today! I cant imagine having to work and take care of a baby. Not sure how I will cope once I do have to go back to work. What a mystery about your clock?!?!?

Murph - glad all is ok with you and your house. Id imagine it would be pretty scary to have to evacuate and wonder if your house would still be standing afterwards.

to Lenny, Marcellus, Neptune and Janie

AFU - Has been a hectic week or so. Have had my nephew staying with us on and off. I am picking him up shortly and he is staying until Sunday. His mum has bi-polar and is in hospital at the moment. She has been in and out of hospital all the time which leaves my nephew in the care of his grandfather whom personally I dont think takes very good care of him. He often comes to us with worn and dirty clothes, they havent had a washing machine for MONTHS.The other day he told me he had a lettuce sandwich for lunch I was like WTF??? I asked his grandfather if my nephew is ready for school next week and his response was "he'll be right" I was so angry. I ended up calling his mum in hospital who told me she hadnt organised things so I told her Id do it this week. He is 12 this year and is off to high school next year so he is approaching a critical time in his life. He doesnt shower everyday at home and most of the time he takes care of himself. He makes his own lunch for school, wakes himself up and takes himself to school. Its just not right. It is a very hard situation cause if me and my family rock the boat, his mother may turn around and say to us we cant have access to him. My brother whose child he is, passed away when my nephew was 2.

On top of that, my DP whom found out last year after a DNA test that he has a 16 year old daughter, finally made contact with her on Monday after tracking her down through a solicitor so we have that to contend with too. His daughter is keen to meet him which is good.

Also my DP is having major foot reconstruction surgery on 11 Feb in which he will be off work anywhere from 6 - 8 weeks and basically totally reliant on me and he will be off his feet completely for at least 2 full weeks and after that we are hoping he can get around on crutches. However this wont help me much with taking care of Trent.

As for Trent, well he is just more and more adorable every day. He is 12 weeks today As of Monday night, we have tried to wake him around 11pm to feed him in HOPE that he will sleep for the night. He only slept 4 hrs the first night, 5 hrs last night so HOPING it will be 6 hrs tonight. Since he is nearly 3 months old, I thought we'd better try to not demand feed him at night so he can hopefully sleep through. Im going to my mothersgroup meeting today so will ask the MHCN about it and what she recommends.

Sorry to rant on girls. Just so much happening with me and its all getting to me. My head is just reeling at the moment with everything going on.

Have a good day.

Take care,
Tania

[briggsy's girl]

As for Trent, well he is just more and more adorable every day. He is 12 weeks today As of Monday night, we have tried to wake him around 11pm to feed him in HOPE that he will sleep for the night. He only slept 4 hrs the first night, 5 hrs last night so HOPING it will be 6 hrs tonight. Since he is nearly 3 months old, I thought we'd better try to not demand feed him at night so he can hopefully sleep through. Im going to my mothersgroup meeting today so will ask the MHCN about it and what she recommends.

Sorry to rant on girls. Just so much happening with me and its all getting to me. My head is just reeling at the moment with everything going on.

Have a good day.

Take care,
Tania

Tania - the line i bolded - please don't take this the wrong way, but night weaning can cause more issues than feeding on demand overnight. there have been a few threads on BB lately about people who have tried and it has caused more issues for them. and three months is very young for a bubba to be trying to store enough in their tummy to sustain them overnight

my DD got to the point of sleeping through very young - she was doing 6 hour stints by 5 weeks, 8+ hours by about 10 weeks. at 6months (ish) that all fell in a heap. we hit hotter weather, she was teething, started solids - and sleeping through went out the window and feeding on demand overnight started again. i can't deny her the drink she needs though. i wake and drink water overnight, so i can understand her wanting to have a drink. i believe in letting her guide us as to what she needs and when. it would be nice to be sleeping through but she is only young once, and it can work better to work with your bubba rather than against what they naturally need. hope that makes sense!

AFU - DD is only a couple of days off 8 months. she has a healthy appetitie and eats just about everything. mashed vegies got the big frown though - she spat them out - much to my embarrassment seeing it was prepared for her by friends of ours! oops! tomorrow we are getting the first of her eye tests done. not looking forward to it, but i know it has to happen and at least if we get on top of any issues early. friday she has her weigh in - she's doing well though - been weighing her at mum's - think she is a bit over 8.5kilos now

[onthefly]

Wow Tania, you really have a lot on your plate! How lucky for your nephew that he has you guys looking out for him.

Have you tried dreamfeeding? It works well for some people. I have to say, a 5-hour stretch is really good for a 12-week old! Most 3-months old wont' be able to go much longer than that between feeds; most 6-month olds still feed through the night! Good luck with the sleep.

All the best for the eye tests BG.

[bella55]

Hi everyone,

I'm hoping i can jump in - was in the LTTTC-Preg thread but haven't had much time to get on and join this one since the birth of my twin boys!!

Jack and Samuel are 9 weeks old today!! Boy it's been hard!! I struggled for the past few weeks but have turned the corner in the last 5 days or so after having a professional come to my home to help me with sleep and settling and routine development. Since then Jack (my big boy - 6.1kg at 8weeks!) is now sleeping through - after a dreamfeed at 11pm - sleeps till 6-7am therefore i only have to feed Samuel (4.5kg at 8weeks) at around 3am - so i am finally getting some sleep!.
The sleep deprivation has been the hardest and the fact that everything takes twice as long with twins! We are now getting more interaction, smiles etc i can't believe how quickly they grow and change!

Anyway most of you i remember from the preg forum can't wait to read and catch up on all your stories!

xxBella

[onthefly]

Hi Bella and welcome over here!
Well done you growing such big boys. Glad to hear things have settled down a bit for you - can't imagine how tough it must be with two.

[Janie71]

Sorry girls - don't have time for a lot of persies again today... don't know where the time goes.

But I just wanted to say a big hi to Bella! Great to see you in here - looking forward to hearing more about your boys.

Janie and Jasmine xxx