Smithy: Glad you love the new place, we missed you!
Grub: I too get the screaming then the big grin! Does my head in! But I can never stay mad at that cute little face!
We are all good here. DS is a little tank, weighs 5.5kg @ 6weeks, put on 840g in 2 weeks, then 450g the following week , yep that's 2kg since birth! So much for him "not thriving" if I chose to bottle feed! He's out of 0000 and some of the 000 are getting a little snug around the beer gut.
To all those with unsettled bubs, thank you, you have made me feel a little more normal! I'm used to hearing of my cousins with their bubs, 13 weeks (slept 11.5hrs a night from 7 weeks) and 15weeks (slept 6-8hrs a night from 5weeks) and it drives me mental! We were still going every 3 hrs. But last Thurs DS went for needles (can you believe 6 weeks already???) and I got Doc to check him and he has reflux AND is lactose intolerant so is now on specially made Losec solution & is on De-Lact formula and we mostly seem to get 4hrly feeds at night.
Spent the weekend at my parents and he slept like a dream in the porta-cot. Wonder why he won't sleep in his OWN cot??? He'll lay there and kick for 30-40mins then it's WAAAAHHHHH!!!
Ahhh Mothers Day, will be so much nicer this year. Last year I had just had my first ICSI and a week before Mother's Day did a HPT and got a BFP. Then the next Friday had my BT & they said I was BFP but that something was wrong and chances were it would end in a miscarriage. So Mother's Day was not a very nice day. My family tried to be positive and make it a good day for me but I spent most of it in tears. Then the Tuesday after the inevitable happened. Can't believe it's been a year already. But at least the only tears this year will be of happiness.
Interesting though, dion't know how to approach the 1yr anniversary, I want to acknowledge it but DH has never accepted what happened. He believed "nothing was there" becasue it was so early (5weeks) and wasn't a foetus yet and when I Mc-ed he got really angry and told me I had no right to be upset cause nothing really happened and that I should have been prepared for it to go wrong. Since then he has acknowledged it for my sake but still admits he has no feeling towards it himself. I don't know what to do about that. Any thoughts?
Anyway had better go, trying to get him to settle in his cot, he's gone from the attention-seeking whinges to full blown "get me out of here" screaming *sigh*
Been busy lately so haven't had much time to drop in and post but have been reading how everyone is going.
BOC as for you question about your DH, with both my m/c my DH couldn't really understand either what it was like. To him the pregnancy didn't seem real until he could actually see something and even then it took him ages to really connect that a fat belly meant a baby. I think most men don't actually get the connection until they hold their child.
Anyway, looks like we might have brought forward our plans for no.2. I took Tara into DH's work yesterday and his boss mentioned that when I'm ready to look to go back to finding a job to let her know as they always have part time admin roles coming up (at the local hossy), so that bought on the conversation of do I get a job and then try for No 2 and possibly have to leave or do we bring forward our plans for No 2 and then possibly go back to work later.
Well we decided to bring forward trying for no 2 as I'm not getting any younger and it might work 1st time or the last time or not at all and then we will know where we stand on me going back to work sometime in the future.
So the plan is to make an appt with the FS for July and start the ball rolling for out FET's, by that time Tara will be 9 mths old so worst case scenario would mean that there would be an 18mth age gap. So how scary is that... in a couple of months I'll be back on the baby train.....
Well first of all, I hope you all had the happiest Mother's day ever. I couldn't quite get used to the fact that it would be my first either, but I got more and more excited and the day was better than Christmas cos it was all mine and it was fantastic!!! My DH is so damn special, I think I'll keep him. Morning after morning when I thought he was up working on his thesis, he was plotting and planning on the computer making me a book from Jazzy. Then it arrived in the mail and he had to stop himself form showing it to me early. Oh, it's so beautiful, from birth to her first 5 months in words told by Jasmine. It's absolutely awesome and it's going to take some beating for Father's day...damn he's too organised. Meanwhile, I managed only to get my Mum a card made online and still plodding away on a calendar....ahh to have time! And while I'm bragging, then I had yummy smoked salmon and scrambled eggs on turkish bread with garden fresh salad (and the good tea set Grub ) and later in the morning we went to check out a gorgeous surf beach with white talcum soft sand and that was devine until we dipped Jazz in for her first little splash and a huge mumma of a wave drenched her in freezing water. Ooops, DH felt soooo bad as we were only doing it for a photo moment to compare to our former Daintree photos. Off with the clothes and bundled into DHs yummy hoodie and all was forgiven. When we got home, we all had lunch and a sleep in bed together. Bliss Perfection. sorry to boast but I'm the girl that has to sit back when other girls are running down their men for being slack at everything (housework as well) and have nothing to contribute cos I got a goodin and I won't settle for less anyway.
As for how I have been travelling. Oh gawd, too much to tell, too much going on with the surgery saga and the will she or won't she? It's taken over my life, which I didn't want to happen but now I know it has to happen in order to really get on top of things and do everything I can for Jasmine ito have the best opportunities to develop normally. So life, apart from the amazing time I'm having with my 6 month old who is talking up a storm, sitting up, rolling over, laughing, smiling, eating solids and filling every crevice of my world with love and fascination (and mushy banana), is a tad bit busy. I've become one of those people...oh dear a child's advocate, knocking on all doors to find solutions. I am really having a few wins but still don't have all my ducks lined up. I have found a foundation who want to provide support with travel and I have an amazing bloke who is doing a lot of legal work to overturn my health fund's decision to not cover us. He's a ball breaker and I reckon he will win. It's not a legal challenge, it's just a company CEO with a lot of nouse and experience in negotiating. He has already done so much for us just to get us on the program in Melbourne, let alone everything he is trying to do. He has also got our surgery costs donated and is now looking for another $52 000 and we will be good to go. I haven't felt worhty of your praise when you've told me I'm brave, but I guess now I am starting to accept that it is taking its toll. Sorry Grub, but I finally cried. I decided to throw my hands up in the air and tell the world to get stuffed, and had a big exhausted cry, you now the type where you are not just crying for this situation, but for the IVF and the bloody hard time you've had...yep, an all out pity party. But Jazzy was watching and she was so confused as she has never seen me cry so she just tried to crack me up laughing and she succeeded. Yep, that did it. "don't waste another minute being unhappy Mum cos I am so damn happy and I dont know any better", was her attitude. So we just had a big old cuddle and got on with it and I decided to just go hard at trying to get the surgery early but not get too upset if we have to wait and there is a bit of developmental delay. It fully sucks if it doens't go ahead and I considered moving interstate blah blah blah, but we'll get there. We have really good people trying to help us.
So, yep. I have been hiding under a rock and will be there a bit I think. I haven't used facebook in a month, I haven't written to anyone back in the daintree, all the promises go out the window and it's just all about us at the moment until I gain a bit of momentum and then regain balance.
Awww Murph what a nice thing DH did for you they take ages to get together and it is such a special forever gift glad you had a great day.
KellyD at more babies wow back on the train so soon, mind you I miss my belly still.
BOC hope you had an ok weekend and bubs is more settled. I'd steal their porta cot
Saph hope you and the boyz are great and you got something nice yesterday.
Marcellus for work
Neptune hope Adam is back to his nice ruitine for you LUCKY LADY
Wow new set out is strange, will get used to it.
Yesterday was BLAH but I don't want to go on about it, I think I need to be more real with my expectations.
Rang the Union about my rights for work and they have to "concider" part time so I'll see how I go tomorrow. Wish me luck ladies.
I think Linc is teething or something big is going on, runny poo loads of drooling, chomping (hard) on everything. I know this doesn't always mean teeth but he's been up at 12midnight for an extra feed too again so tired mummy.
hi girls. wow the site looks different!
hey murph - you must be a bit spesh to use the 'good tea set' rofl. And crying is absolutely allowed! i hoped you felt better. I"m a bit of a fan of a big sooky-lah-lah cry every now and then. I'm a stress crier, when i stress I cry but it usually makes me feel better. You are the best mum jazzy could have! weather or not everything goes to the ideal time frame, I think she'll be just fine cos she's got you two as parents Remember all this happens for a reason and if you don't make the timeline, maybe there is a reason for that... something that jazzy is meant to do etc (not sure if that makes sense).
Oh and give your DH a good ole pat on the back love! what a treasure. But i'd be concerned about that sneakiness he's shown lol.
kelly d - that is so super exciting! fingers crossed.
well it looks like i have a baby whose a stickler for his routine and his bed and his grobag in precisely the correct order, thank you very much mummy! it's like all the sudden he woke up one day and decided to be precious! lol. My mum assures me i'm getting my comeuppance for being a little bbeee-atch.
But he's settled into a 7am wake up 7pm bed routine with 2 x 2hr sleeps and an arvo nap He's nearly 5 months now and is eating solids like they are going out of fashion, so today i added lunch to the menu. But we are still only on farex, carrot, potato, pumpkin. Tomorrow is 'add a food day' but not sure if i should go sweet potato, oats, yoghurt, avocado or banana. hhmm any suggestions?
The only thing that is bugging us atm is he keeps wetting through his MCNs... THREE complete bed, clothes, nappy changes last night! brh.
anyhoo going to explore this newfangled site.
oxoxo
hope you all had a happy mum's day. I was also spoilt and like murph, I really have no major complaints agains DH - he cooks, he cleans, he rubs feet (usually on the way to elsewhere but hey gotta give a bloke a break lol). We had grilled crossiants with ham and super naughty cheese followed by a lunch of chicken and veg rice paper rolls; fish and chips and sticky date pud with icecream.... mmmwwwaaaahhhhh got a breastfeeding necklace and flowers to boot.
Murph: So nice to see you back, I was wondering how you and the precious Jazzy were going. Wow you sure have a lot on your plate but I agree with Grub, she has chosen the best mummy & daddy to help her through no matter what happens. OMG, so much for Jellyfish Jazz... it seems like she has made huge leaps and is now ahead of Tara. We are only now sitting on our own, still no attempt to roll any further than what she has been doing for almost 3 months and no sign of teeth either.
Grub: Yay for routine but it can be a bugger if you need to do something and it spoils the routine.... Tara is one who also only likes to sleep in her cot (the porta cot will also surfice) but this means if we are out she just will not go to sleep and will only crash in the car seat when she is exhausted but this generally occurs about 10 minutes from home.
Green: I hope you can get some resolution about going Part Time...
And also a big Happy Mothers Day to you all for yesterday... I also got breakfast in bed - poached eggs on toast - and I got a beautiful keepsake present of a Swarovski Crystal baby girl bear (she has a pink bow) to remember my first mothers day. After everything we went through I wanted something I could keep forever to remember this special day. Then to top it all off my mum & dad came over in the afternoon and brought over with them an apple & blueberry pie from the Sovereign Hill bakery. It was so yummy that we had left overs for dessert as well.
Now a question for our more experienced mummies... Tara has now become a child who seems to persist in rolling onto her tummy for her day sleeps. Seems good in theory as she can turn her head but she still doesn't know how to roll back onto her back and therefore she wakes herself up when she wants to change position. We try and put things in to block her from rolling onto her tummy but she can do it in the one spot so that doesn't help, and we generally end up in a rolling game that can take anything up to 40 minutes for her to fall asleep on her back or side. Any thoughts or ideas what I can do?? At night she is no problem and falls asleep on her back it is just the day sleeps that are the issue.
Hi Murph . I think we're all just impressed that you have so much extra to deal with on top of the usual mummy stuff! Sounds like little Jazzy as the right idea
It's fabulous to hear there are people working so hard on your behalf - on top of your own efforts! Really wonderful.
Glad your hubby is so good. Really, it should be the norm, shouldn't it?
Wow Kelly, that's just a few months away! All the best
ETA - good luck again with work Green. Hope they'll be more reasonable.
hi girls,
im just popping in to say a big hello ,still no net as were very broke lol but give me 2 more weeks and im back for good as im missing this place so much.all is wonderful here miss c is going very well as are cooper and i.
so big hi to you all and know i miss you all like crazy and love you all,im so having bb withdrwawles lol..take care all xoxox
OMG Marcellus so so so happy for you and your family all things crossed all good for the next 7ish months really great news.
Hay smithy Miss ya
Hi to all
ATM doing another night shift with no clients, so I'm getting a bit of me time and really enjoying it esp being paid!
Just when I almost totally lost the plot my mums neibour and good friend is having Lincoln Mondays and Thursdays if needed for at least two months seams my wer answered, I'll pay her even if she says no but that means I can spend more time with Linc in child care before he is ther for good and 6 months sounds so much better. fro ear to ear today.
Still feeling sick about work and not happy about my manager who has been MIA for almost a year and is being a bossy B***h already! but it seams the majority understand my pain and it'll be ok. Only 2 weeks to go now, I'm really enjoying all those little moments with Linc at the moment I wish it didn't have to end but I'm sure my days off will be so special.
Linc has his first cold and has been sleeping badly but I feel so sad for him as I know it must be awful with a bloked nose, loads of steam and cuddles.
Just wanted to drop in and let you all know that after a very unsettled weekend (when I thought Tara was getting a cold) we now have 1 tooth that has broken through. Found out by chance this morning when my little finger copped a good old munch.
Hope you are all doing well and that your little ones are also growing heaps.
Marcellus: Huuuge CONGRATS!!!!! Wishing you a H & H preg! Will you be finding out what you're having?
Must be something in the water over on the LTTTC threads, they have had a stack of this month!
Call me crazy but I so can't wait to go down that path again! Despite the dramas at the end I really loved being pg. Hopefully we will be financially blessed in the next 12 months so we don't have to wait so long, I'm up for an EPU cycle straight away as we had no frosties left.
Well I hope everyone's good and loving the cooler weather! We are all good. Last two nights we have had a 7hr and a 5hr sleep! I am soooo hoping DS keeps it up and isn't just teasing me. Mind you, I didn't sleep well, I was laying awake thinking he was going to wake up any moment! Would be nice if I could get used to it though!
Still not having much luck moving DS into his cot. He just won't sleep for more than 10/20mins in it. We're going to move it into our room for the winter, my thoughts were it's easier to keep 1 room warm than 2. So hopefully still being near us might do the trick???
Can't believe my little precious is 2 months old tomorrow! Where has the time gone? As of last week the little chubba chops has put on 2.2kg!
Ahhhh must run, his royal highness is hollering. Hope everyone has a good rest of the week!
BOC - I too am having trouble gertting Xavier into his cot. I want him out of our room so I dont have to listen to him grunting throughout the night. He is almost sleeping through but he makes so much noise in the couple of hours before 6 that I am awake waiting for him to wake up.
Just a quick question and I should know this but I just cant remember but when did you stop doing a dream feed and just feed them before you put them to bed. I cant remember when I did this with Campbell.
everyone!
, yep that's 2kg since birth! So much for him "not thriving" if I chose to bottle feed! He's out of 0000 and some of the 000 are getting a little snug around the beer gut.
) and later in the morning we went to check out a gorgeous surf beach with white talcum soft sand and that was devine until we dipped Jazz in for her first little splash and a huge mumma of a wave drenched her in freezing water. Ooops, DH felt soooo bad as we were only doing it for a photo moment to compare to our former Daintree photos. Off with the clothes and bundled into DHs yummy hoodie and all was forgiven. When we got home, we all had lunch and a sleep in bed together. Bliss
Perfection. sorry to boast but I'm the girl that has to sit back when other girls are running down their men for being slack at everything (housework as well) and have nothing to contribute cos I got a goodin and I won't settle for less anyway
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), is a tad bit busy. I've become one of those people...oh dear a child's advocate, knocking on all doors to find solutions. I am really having a few wins but still don't have all my ducks lined up. I have found a foundation who want to provide support with travel and I have an amazing bloke who is doing a lot of legal work to overturn my health fund's decision to not cover us. He's a ball breaker and I reckon he will win. It's not a legal challenge, it's just a company CEO with a lot of nouse and experience in negotiating. He has already done so much for us just to get us on the program in Melbourne, let alone everything he is trying to do. He has also got our surgery costs donated and is now looking for another $52 000 and we will be good to go. I haven't felt worhty of your praise when you've told me I'm brave, but I guess now I am starting to accept that it is taking its toll. Sorry Grub, but I finally cried. I decided to throw my hands up in the air and tell the world to get stuffed, and had a big exhausted cry, you now the type where you are not just crying for this situation, but for the IVF and the bloody hard time you've had...yep, an all out pity party. But Jazzy was watching and she was so confused as she has never seen me cry so she just tried to crack me up laughing and she succeeded. Yep, that did it. "don't waste another minute being unhappy Mum cos I am so damn happy and I dont know any better", was her attitude. So we just had a big old cuddle and got on with it and I decided to just go hard at trying to get the surgery early but not get too upset if we have to wait and there is a bit of developmental delay. It fully sucks if it doens't go ahead and I considered moving interstate blah blah blah, but we'll get there. We have really good people trying to help us.
glad you had a great day.
for work
hope Adam is back to his nice ruitine for you LUCKY LADY
so so so happy for you and your family all things crossed all good for the next 7ish months 
wer answered, I'll pay her even if she says no but that means I can spend more time with Linc in child care before he is ther for good and 6 months sounds so much better. 
Wishing you a H & H preg! Will you be finding out what you're having?
this month! 
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