Parenting after LTTTC #2

[onthefly]

Thanks again Sazz. Work is ok, just working as and when there is any for me (and I can get babysitter etc).
If we lived closer I'd offer to babysit for you when you go for EPU etc... but I think the drop off's probably a bit far for you

I know what you mean about seeing kids at the FS. I thought the same thing at first, but then of course it occurred to me that they were probably IVF kids themselves. Which is nice, in a way.

[Lenny]

Hi all,
Shannon - yay for thinking about number 3! You must be supermum by now, you could probably do twins again!
Sazz - hope the appt goes well on Monday.
I personally think that it was so much easier to go back for FET cycles than a full stim, and I'm sure I would not have started so soon if i'd had to contemplate all the cr@p that goes with stim cycles. We took DS to all our appointments/scans etc, but again, much easier with a FET. I did feel a bit guilty bringing him along (for the other peoples sake) but we have no family here, so there's not much choice.
Marcellus - good luck with weaning A. It was hard, really hard, but then when it was over with, it wasn't so bad. Now at least i have had some ' bf free time' for when number two comes along.

Hi to everyone, and I hope you and your little ones are well. I will endeavour to catch up a bit more later.
Jo

[sazzafrazz]

Hi Lenny, how are you feeling now? Has the MS gone yet? I hope you are going really well.

Marcellus, how is the child care going now? I guess things have settled now. I hope so.

AFM. you are all going to think I am totally mental. We had our FS appt about 2weeks ago and got all signed up to do a stim again in a few months time. I had cold feet only the night before but we talked and talked and decided to go. Well, yesterday we got a nasty tax bill (bloody employers not taking out enough tax all year) and that started money talks. That was followed by AC talks and the long story cut short is: we have decided to stop. I know you must think me mental after only just organising one~! I guess the thing is we tried for 10years to conceive C and have had 2 frozen cycles since, one with an early MC so a total of 12embryos transferred and only one baby out of it all. We are just worn out by it all and so lucky to have the darling DD we DO have. We are both very happy and feel a weight lifted having decided to not do any more AC. I am still sad at the idea of no more babies though. I just have to reconcile the two ideas. We were just feeling we have had our other life on hold all these years and never planning because of "maybe" and now we can just get on with the rest of our lives. Phew, hope that makes sense. I think I will still feel those pangs of jealousy when I hear of other pregnancies but just knowing what our future holds now for certain is reassuring. I do feel a bit anxious about C growing up an only child and have to get my head around that now.

Sorry for the selfish post but it only happened yesterday and I had to get it all out to somone who will understand!

[onthefly]

Sazz, you're not mental at all! I think we can all understand that feeling of the weight being lifted. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise: Who knows what else life will bring for you guys now? I hope you can make peace with this and enjoy your lives & little miss C. And I don't think she will suffer for not having siblings.

Well, Master A is already suffering the scourge of 'daycare sickness' - he's missed 3 days already! Such a nuisance. And I got sick as well, though to be fair he probably didn't contract the latest illness at daycare (since he was away sick last week), but anyway. So anyway, we started over this week and who knows how long it'll take for him to settle in. It was easier for me at least

Down to 2 feeds... he just keeps asking for it though! Lenny, how did you do it? I feel so mean... I'm wearing normal bras during the day, so there's some upside.

Hope you're all doing well

[Lenny]

Sazz - you are not mental at all. I think it's great that you really sat down and decided what was best for you all (Miss C included) and you chose to stop all the AC madness. Good for you guys. You have to start a new phase in your life eventually. What is the best thing for you is always the best thing for your DD - she is as lucky to have you as parents, as you are to have her.

As for the pangs of jealousy - they will haunt us all i guess. These last few years have really opened my eyes to the huge number of women (and men too) who dream of children they never had, or ones that they lost too soon. Makes me hug my own a little tighter.

Marcellus - I felt mean too - very mean. But now DS has forgotten altogether about bbs. Two feeds is pretty good! I must sheepishly confess (don't tell anyone) that I cut DS's last feed the week before i did the FET He was only having one a day and my cycle was totally normal.

[onthefly]

So true Lenny, so true - I have a whole new perspective on these things now.
But that's great that you had a normal cycle while still breastfeeding and were able to keep going right up to 'd-day'. I just can't imagine a day when DS will forget about boobies. Well, he is a boy, so I guess he'll just switch to thinking about someone elses...

[sazzafrazz]

Thanks for your kind words girls. I knew I could rely on you guys to understand my mentalness It has been two days now and I am feeling happier about it already. We even spent time with my 9week old neice today and I didnt feel sad at all, just nostalgic for when C was like that as they seem quite similar. Now we can concentrate on the three of us, not what might be in the future. No more TTC stresses for our little girl to get involved in.
I wonder how long it will take me to stop thinking of my AF/cycles in the same conception way after so many years of microanalysing it? OMG do we actually need to think of contraception when I get to the age I would consider a cut off???? Alien idea to us!

I am kind of excited about going through all our baby gear and selling stuff off and clearing out the spare/junk/storage/office room. I'd like to get C in here as its a bigger room and she can have her toys in here rather than all over the lounge.
We can plan things now like we know we will be able to afford to send her to the catholic school but didnt think we would afford to send 2 or 3 kids there. We can plan for a big holiday soonish rather than "one day when the kids are big enough".

Marcellus at your DS switching his boobie fixation to someone elses!!!! It's scary to think of them at that age! I must admit I was sad that C weaned herself at 8months but relieved that I didnt have a persistant toddler pulling at me in public. She is interested in my boobs mostly because she likes bras and sometimes there is a spare tissue stuffed in there, not for the boobs themselves. She can say bra. She walks around with my enourmous ones on. She likes to delve in there for the tissue.

Lenny. OMG at cutting the last feed so close to your FET. I guess it was really meant to succeed! How long after did he still ask?

I'm glad this thread is active again. I miss it when we dont chat.