I'm going to do updates later, but Kelly just wanted to let you know I'm in your corner and after a bit of gentle persuasion (he always comes round to seeing sense), so is my DH, after discussing it with him. He could see your side but then thought it wouldn't be a problem for him until I reminded him that if he had to share Dad Dad with my Dad instead of Dad being Pop, it would take something away from him being Dad. He thought there was a distinction but babies will say "Mum Mum", "Dad Dad" for Mum and Dad too won't they, that's how they learn (even Mum Mum Mum!) It's your DH's family tradition but it's not yours and it's quite an imposition to lay that one on you. You tell DH from the sistahood....not happy Jan! Mum is your title, you've worked bloody hard for it and while lots of things don't matter, this one certainly does. Hang in there, this is ultimately one for your DH to back you up on and support your decision and for him to sort out with his mother. You relax and don't stress.