Pregnancy after Long Term TTC #6 - 2009

[Loveinamist]

Hi all!
Thanks for all the lovely supportive messages. DH and I have had a talk and we have decided to get everyone who pees us off to back off. I even composed a message to send family if needed. It is a bit strong but it is how we feel!!!

'Everyone, Fiona is having a baby in January at such and such a hospital in such and such a town, Somerset. If you 'care' about this (original wording was 'give a sh*t') and want to see her and the new baby please make your own arrangements to be there. Fiona will decide on the day who she wants to see while in labour and has the right as a vulnerable pregnant woman to refuse to see people who will add to her stress rather than relieve it. She has no idea how she will feel on the day so for the first time she would like to be the one being looked after rather than the one doing the looking after! Fiona and DH need nurturing and protecting at this time and wish the people around them would give them this or give them space if they need it. This may be the one and only time that Fiona and DH experience this special time of a new born baby so we must admit that we are finding it very difficult to care (once again 'give a s**t' appeared here in the original!!) about other people's dramas at this time. We have never asked for this before and hope that this can be done for us this one time. (I was going to make a sly mention of our disastrous wedding where we couldn't wait to leave and couldn't wait for it to be over but I thought that might just cause too much drama and left it out!!) So please do the following for us.
1. We don't want to hear complaints about how much accommodation costs around here. We don't have the room in our house and even if we did, we plan to have a babymoon of sorts in our house so that DH and I can get to know our baby and we can go through the hormonal changes that happen after the birth together. Fiona holding the baby and DH holding and protecting the two of us.
2. When you do visit, we would appreciate not having to run around looking after you. You know where everything is in the kitchen so please feel free to make as many cups of tea as you like. Cook, eat, make merry. We want this to be a happy celebratory time! However Fiona may spend alot of time sleeping with the baby. DH may even join them!!
3. Please do not complain about how much any presents have cost or make mention of the 'hardship' you will now be going through because you have bought them. Fiona and DH have bought 99% of the things for the baby and have not asked for expensive 'designer' things. We personally think our baby is worth anything that comes his way and have made our own sacrifices to get him the things he needs. Maybe we are alone in this as he is our baby and we are wrong to expect this from others. If this is the case just don't buy anything.

In all Fiona and Dh are excited and scared about what will be happening to them after 7 years of trying for a baby and 12 years altogether with it just being the two of them. If you think that you are the people to help support us through this happy, exciting and somewhat scary time then we look forward to seeing you and enjoying this experience with you. If you are not feeling this than perhaps you should stay home and come and see the baby when everything has calmed down. (original said 'stay the f**k at home!' Oh dear!!!)

Thanks
Fiona and DH

Now reading it back I can see it is written for one particular person but hey it felt good to write it!!!! Hopefully it won't need to be sent. Just a quick question...does the fact I have a wicked stepmother make me a fairytale princess?? LOL!

Now I had a million personals I wanted to write but will need to look back and get my head sorted before I do that.