Hello all! I am excited because whatever my tracker says, I'm four months today Next target which I was watching someone else reach is 18 weeks four days, which is 150 days to go. (btw sorry about the me post). We've decided after great prevarication to find out the gender. I'm gutted as we live in a rented place that we only have for a few more months and I'd love to decorate, but we can't. I was telling my friend last night about your nursery BDT and she's now decided to use some ideas from yours!!! I've found a really really good online organic baby shop so I've ordered loads of stuff from there. That'll teach DH for going away and leaving me alone for 10 days!!
My best friend has just bought a chest freezer and she never cooks. So today I start filling it with my cooking. I'm going to try and cook a couple of meals a week to freeze for when baby comes. My mother is gluten free, so I'll need to make three meals a day otherwise! Did I tell you that the doctor is making me see a dietician as I'm a vegetarian? I think it's a complete waste of time but everyone else thinks it's great. The only thing it's making me is marginally guilty that my baby is full of curry, cake and pizza! (not at the same time!)
Anyway, I'm having great fun. Our sirname is the same as an awful awful awful English z list celebrity, so I've told all my in laws we'll be naming the baby after her if it's a she....and more worryingly they can't quite decide if I'm bluffing them or double bluffing! Charming, as if I'd be that chavy!! (like a bogun but with diamante)
Ah, the thing I actually came on to ask. I'm being plagued by mossies. What repellent if any are you allowed to use when pregnant and what soothing cream? I'm being driven mad by them.
London Miss and Lise~ I was having the discussion yesterday with my mum,about whether to find out the baby's sex at my 18 week scan.It is something my dh and i having been struggling with also.My dh doesnt want to know,my mil does,my mum does but now says it doesnt matter,and me,well i dont know!! I was so set on finding out but had everyone ask me "are you going to find out?Can you tell me if you do". I think i would want to know and im VERY good at keeping secrets so i initially thought,if i find out and tell everyone i didnt then id get away with it,then i realised dh didnt want to know but is coming to the scan,so is my mum.Im thinking this.... we will see the scan together,then they can leave the room while i find out the sex.When i come out knowing,i can then say the baby was in a position that they couldnt tell. Is that realistic or not? Or is it my stupid pregnant brain??
Aaaahhh i dont know!!
Good luck with what you decide girls.No matter what i decide now,i will probably change my mind by then anyway.hahaha
babydreamtime~best of luck on your delivery.Cant wait to see pics.
Green~hoping baby Lincoln is doing well (Great name by the way.that was a name i chose long ago when we first started trying.Its lovely)
Anyone else i missed,belly rubs to all.xx
Is anyone having trouble choosing names? DH and i hardly agree on ANYTHING! We have a yuk surname and nothing nice goes with it.My maiden name was long and hyphenated and relatively 'classy' now im trying to find a classic name to go with a stupid surname.( I sound nasty but its just so yuk)
The name we chose for a boy,well the initials ended up F.W.T which to me looks rather short for f 'wit. DH thought it was hilarious but not me! So now we have nothing!!
Hey wantbaby. The way we worked it was I figured that despite what I told my DH, I've basically made all the decisions about this baby so far. Only two has he put his foot down on, and that is he wants to find out the gender (I'm undecided, but probably against) and that he definitely wants me to have the baby in hospital not at home. Given that I've got my way on everything else, I'm going with those two My starting point for names is 4 generations ago (apparently it takes this long to become cool again). I have a great grandmother who chained herself to a town hall in order to get the vote for women, so her name is a high contender for me.
My initials were awful until I got married and I got teased about it mercilessly at school.... so I'd steer away from FWT!!!!
Wantbaby: I say don't do it! For 2 main reasons. (And please girls, I mean absolutely no disrespect to those who have/will find out, just my thoughts on the subject). When it was our turn, I half/half wanted to know, but DH was adamant NO! So I said no too becasue I am totally useless at keeping secrets and I didn't feel right knowing if he didn't. But even on the day in the scan room when the sonographer asked did we want to know I went to say yes but DH put his hand over my mouth . Looking back, I'm glad I didn't find out as we already know so much, and have our names picked, and I may have to have a scheduled caesar so even the birthday may not be a surprise so this is the only surprise we have left!
I think the decision should be made between the two of you, and not because of what the MIL or your Mum or anyone else wants. This is you and your DH's baby, not theirs. Remember they will find out eventually, it just may take longer that's all. And also, once you know, you know, there's no taking it back.
Firstly, one of our main reasons for not finding out was that we found with the whole AC/IVF everything was so clinical & calculated. We knew everything that was happening in advance and there weren't really any surprises, no "Hollywood moments" of finding out you're pg, it was all out of our control. This was one thing we felt we could control, and after it's all over & done we still get to give that surprise to everyone of It's a boy/girl. We also aren't telling anyone our name choices either for that extra element.
Secondly, if your DH doesn't want to know, but you find out, then IMHO really you shouldn't be telling anyone else if the baby's own father doesn't know. You two are a team and have been through this journey together and it only seems fair that he should be one of the first to know. But definitely don't lie to him, if you find out, tell him you know, and if you plan on telling anyone else, tell him before you do it so he has the opportunity to veto the idea if he wishes, or even if he changes his mind later you can tell him the sex. I'll explain why below.
Just something to keep in mind. A friend of mine had a baby last August. She found out but her DF didn't want to know so she told him that they couldn't see anything so she didn't know either. She wasn't [planning on telling anybody else anyway. But she told her mother (who coincidentally has a bigger mouth than Texas). So coincidentally, between the two women they got soooo excited and that they were having a boy and got so carried away in the moment that they ended up telling pretty much everyone they saw. As well as telling people the name choices. Well after the baby was born, some random acquaintance let slip to her DF that they had known all along, and the story all came tumbling out. Well her DF was so angry and upset that everyone else knew the sex and name of his own child but him, and that he had been lied to the whole time and it has caused major dramas for them.
Anyway as for names, can't help you there. Ours was the easiest decision ever. In the very first week I asked DH just out of curiosity if he had any ideas of names. He said he really loved a certain boy's name, and I said I really loved a certain girl's name and then we went "Well that's settled then". And it was all over & done. Quite boring actually!
LM: Just quickly, can't remember if it's right or not but I've heard dabbing vinegar on mozzie bites helps ease the itch. But beware of repellants, there's new research that says using products like Aerogard is not recommended during pregnancy, particularly in the first half. You might need to check it out cause I don't know all the details.
Boc~Thankyou for your advice.I know what your saying,however DH is happy for ME to know as long as i dont tell HIM.We are keeping names a secret definately,..thats if we can decide.LOL. Im not sure.maybe DH will surprise me on the day and ask the sonographer...i wish! I just want to be able to buy clothing and accessories for bub.There isnt much out there that isnt gender specific unfortunately.
CONGRATULATIONS GREEN ON LINCOLN'S ARRIVAL!!! i have been thinking about you darling and I hope your labour went well.
I know exactly what you mean about the pumping. I did it for nearly 2 weeks before i could breastfeed ash and its soo disheartening and tough. Hope you don't get too down on yourself about it all, at the end of the day whatever you do is RIGHT for you and right for bub. he's got himself a pretty great mumma there, look how big you grew him! what a great start to life he's already got!
BDT - fingers crossed love. ox
Ash has just woken so better go see what he's grunting about!
CONGRATS TO GREEN ON YOUR LIL BLUE BUNDLE!! Good to hear he was nice and big and healthy! Breastfeeding is really hard in the beggining.. And I know what you mean about the pumping too.. I could NEVER get that damn thing to get anything out of me and ended up having to do it manually, which took forever, hurt and kept me from getting much needed sleep time.. I ended up just trying really hard to get him on the boob everytime and cried through the pain. It didnt make feeding him as heartwarming and bonding as I always pictured it to be but in the end it paid off for his first 6 months. then I ran into more feeding troubles and ended up giving up shortly after and putting him on the bottle.. Tho I wish I had of been able to get the hang of the pump so I couldve had more of a break sometimes. Good luck anyway, and dont feel bad if you cant go on.. I think women are so pressured to breastfeed now. Although I agree that if it works and you can figure it out by all means its the best option for bubs but I think that whatever works best for bub and mum is best.. and if its not for you then you shouldnt feel bad about it. And it ****s me that mums who bottlefeed there bubs get so much put down about it and made to feel like there not doing the right thing. Hope all is going well for you and that bub is growing strong and healthy.
Lise, BOC, LM and wntbby#2
-=- Ahh the gender discussion I must say there are really big upsides and downsides to either way you go about it So it really depends on what you want I think and what ur situation is.. And bugger off to everyone elses opinion
With DS I found out, and Im glad I did, It really helped me to bond with him as My son and prepare for his arrival with lots of blue and boyish things.. I had him named by the time I was 5 and half months and could talk to him by his name way before he was born. So when He was I was already completely prepared for him mentally and emotionaly. The downside I guess was the lack of surprise factor at the birth. I really felt I missed out on that with him and thats why I chose not to find out this time..
With Jelly bean, Ive found that not finding out has kept alot of excitement and a sense of something really big to look forward to.. I think it will help during labour too because I will have a surprise to motivate me.. On the downside It is so damn hard feeling him/her kick and getting to know them without knowing what he/she is.. I wonder all the time and I have to decorate the nursery with all unisex colours and themes (I found the beige and light browns and whites are beautifull and with clothes ive kept it all to whites, blacks, greens, and yellow and browns etc.. It hasnt been as hard to find unisex things as some say it is.. But it certainly keeps you wondering even more
AFM-=- I forgot to mention to everyone that MY DS TURNED 3 ON AUSTRALIA DAY! Hes growing up so fast! He came into me the other morning and I said to him "how old are you now?" and he says "yeah Im FWEE!!" hehehe it was so sweet, so we had a double celebration that day!
Jelly bean is getting steadily bigger and approaching the higher ribs now He/she stuck our his/her foot this morning and I was actually able to grab onto it a little and said "gotcha foot!" hahaha it was so funny how quick it went back inside I think i gave bubs a lil shock! So counting down the weeks now!
Hope everyone is doing well .. Just been nesting today and getting prepared to head out for dinner for my gf's daughters birthday.. Hopeing lil tantrum head gos down for a nap b4 we have to leave...
Next target which I was watching someone else reach is 18 weeks four days, which is 150 days to go. (btw sorry about the me post). We've decided after great prevarication to find out the gender. I'm gutted as we live in a rented place that we only have for a few more months and I'd love to decorate, but we can't. I was telling my friend last night about your nursery BDT and she's now decided to use some ideas from yours!!! I've found a really really good online organic baby shop so I've ordered loads of stuff from there. That'll teach DH for going away and leaving me alone for 10 days!!
. Looking back, I'm glad I didn't find out as we already know so much, and have our names picked, and I may have to have a scheduled caesar so even the birthday may not be a surprise so this is the only surprise we have left!
CONGRATS TO GREEN ON YOUR LIL BLUE BUNDLE!!
So it really depends on what you want I think and what ur situation is.. And bugger off to everyone elses opinion 
He/she stuck our his/her foot this morning and I was actually able to grab onto it a little and said "gotcha foot!" hahaha it was so funny how quick it went back inside I think i gave bubs a lil shock! So counting down the weeks now! 
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