Wantbaby: I say don't do it! For 2 main reasons. (And please girls, I mean absolutely no disrespect to those who have/will find out, just my thoughts on the subject). When it was our turn, I half/half wanted to know, but DH was adamant NO! So I said no too becasue I am totally useless at keeping secrets and I didn't feel right knowing if he didn't. But even on the day in the scan room when the sonographer asked did we want to know I went to say yes but DH put his hand over my mouth . Looking back, I'm glad I didn't find out as we already know so much, and have our names picked, and I may have to have a scheduled caesar so even the birthday may not be a surprise so this is the only surprise we have left!

I think the decision should be made between the two of you, and not because of what the MIL or your Mum or anyone else wants. This is you and your DH's baby, not theirs. Remember they will find out eventually, it just may take longer that's all. And also, once you know, you know, there's no taking it back.

Firstly, one of our main reasons for not finding out was that we found with the whole AC/IVF everything was so clinical & calculated. We knew everything that was happening in advance and there weren't really any surprises, no "Hollywood moments" of finding out you're pg, it was all out of our control. This was one thing we felt we could control, and after it's all over & done we still get to give that surprise to everyone of It's a boy/girl. We also aren't telling anyone our name choices either for that extra element.

Secondly, if your DH doesn't want to know, but you find out, then IMHO really you shouldn't be telling anyone else if the baby's own father doesn't know. You two are a team and have been through this journey together and it only seems fair that he should be one of the first to know. But definitely don't lie to him, if you find out, tell him you know, and if you plan on telling anyone else, tell him before you do it so he has the opportunity to veto the idea if he wishes, or even if he changes his mind later you can tell him the sex. I'll explain why below.

Just something to keep in mind. A friend of mine had a baby last August. She found out but her DF didn't want to know so she told him that they couldn't see anything so she didn't know either. She wasn't [planning on telling anybody else anyway. But she told her mother (who coincidentally has a bigger mouth than Texas). So coincidentally, between the two women they got soooo excited and that they were having a boy and got so carried away in the moment that they ended up telling pretty much everyone they saw. As well as telling people the name choices. Well after the baby was born, some random acquaintance let slip to her DF that they had known all along, and the story all came tumbling out. Well her DF was so angry and upset that everyone else knew the sex and name of his own child but him, and that he had been lied to the whole time and it has caused major dramas for them.

Anyway as for names, can't help you there. Ours was the easiest decision ever. In the very first week I asked DH just out of curiosity if he had any ideas of names. He said he really loved a certain boy's name, and I said I really loved a certain girl's name and then we went "Well that's settled then". And it was all over & done. Quite boring actually!

LM: Just quickly, can't remember if it's right or not but I've heard dabbing vinegar on mozzie bites helps ease the itch. But beware of repellants, there's new research that says using products like Aerogard is not recommended during pregnancy, particularly in the first half. You might need to check it out cause I don't know all the details.