Possums - I am so so sorry. My heart bleeds for you as I know the devastation you are going thru.
Give yourself time to grieve - there is no time limit. We all handle things differently.
It will take some time to come to terms with things.
Thinking of you..
I just came across your thread and read the whole way through your journey. I am sitting here in tears for you. I am so so sorry you have to go through this. There aren't really any words that I can say to make it better for you - but I wanted to give you a massive . Take your time to grieve and look after yourself.
Thank you everyone. This is a supportive place to be with people who actually get it.
I am so sad, angry bitter....
After the babies lost this year, the removal of my right tube with the ectopic, then IVF...I thought this was our turn to have a baby. I our turn will come eventually.
It's just so hard, as so many of you know firsthand.
I guess I'll see some of you the in the LTTC thread again sometime, once we can grieve and regroup
thanks again..the understanding does help
Possums
i am just so sorry, your allowed to be angry, sad and bitter! Big hugs to you and Dh and i hope and pray you are back in here soon Life really is very unfair sometimes. Take care XOX
I am so sorry Possums, life sometimes can be so unfair. My heart is breaking for you all over again, as July last year, this is exactly what I was going through. My angel's heartbeat just stopped at 8wk5d scan...I really thought the whole world was collapsing at the time...
I know its hard but trust me you will get through this, take time to grief and feel all the feelings you have right now and just go with the flow...in time, you will feel strong again. Be kind to yourself.
Possums, I'm so sorry that your little one did not make it . Life is so unfair and it just does not make sense that you should lose this special little baby. Take care and hope that you and your DH are able to take some time out to be together at this very sad time.
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Thanks everyone. I go in for a curette tomorrow and will be glad to have that behind me...and physically anyway, be ready for more body to just resume it's normal cycles, without the feeling of carrying around something which has died...
DH and I are trying to talk lots and stay open, so we stay close and don't drift apart, due to handling things differently. We've been doing well on that front....and I guess one day at a time I am dealing with it and facing the future again....and IVF and trying again. I am just so sad and flat.
Thanks, I am home resting after the curette, so at least that is done now. Sad and empty feeling....and apparently due to waiting for my next period and then the closure of the IVF clinic at xmas, we can't resume a cycle until the start of Jan. It seems ages away. I know we need time to heal and grieve anyway, but in the meantime I feel in limbo and out of control again....not knowing how many more cycles it will take...emotionally and financially it's hard...and waiting and not starting a new IVF cycle, feels somehow frustrating, even though I realise there are benefits.
I accept in time I will start to feel more able to find some joy in life again...and that at least some of this feelings will lessen.Thank goodness I can vent here!
Hi Possum, Glad that you got D&C done and left that behind. At the present of time, just focus on getting better, physically and emotionally. Maybe its a blessing in disguise that you won't be able to do another cycle until Jan next year. At least it will give you time to grief, to build strength ...You know sometimes, timing could be everything. Take care...
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take care of you
. Take your time to grieve and look after yourself.
our turn will come eventually.
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