I've been having a think about this
It seems to me that weaning isn't really your biggest hurdle here. Are you certain you want another so soon and can you convince your DH? If you're deadset for it and believe that starting immediately will give you your best chance, then teh weaning becomes a bit of a no-brainer. (if that makes sense?)
After DS I agonised for a bit about when to start again, remembering how long it took first time (though only 2 IVF cycles). In the end one thing made my mind up - I could not cope with babies close together in age.
I can't speak from a LTTTC perspective but I can on having a small age gap. Although it was not with a third child but a second. I will not lie, it was hard at the start (there was only 16 months between them) but as they started getting older (as the younger one got more mobile) it got much easier. Now they have their moments, but are really great buddies. Good luck with your decision. xo
I weaned my DD at six months so that I could start fertility treatment to have our second child. I was resentful at the time that I had to do it, but if I hadn't, I wouldn't have been able to start IVF, although it took six cycles and eight months to finally fall pregnant. My resulting DS is now six months old, and I'm back to the same decision, albeit that I don't know my ovarian reserve, but my IVF cycles don't indicate an egg problem and I would like to have a third and move on to the next stage without having to think constantly about getting pregnant.
Personally, the biggest hurdle as I see it, is making sure you have DH's support. The baby will be fine without BF'ing (it's us Mum's who find it tough!), and as you know, there is no guarantee you will fall pregnant on the first cycle, but they also make you wait until you have had a full cycle first, so even then, the shortest gap if you wean is about 17 months. Not ideal, but better than not having children if you really want them.
Madb- you're right, I guess I'm of two minds as to whether I should have another, and my hesitation is a lot to do with the small age gap. It feels ridiculous to be thinking about having another baby when I already have a little baby now.
I'm also torn between thinking another member of our family would be perfect, but knowing that my two boys could have a better standard of living if we don't have another. I would love to be able to take them on overseas holidays, send them to private schools etc, this would be tough enough now, but it becomes so much less likely if we have three.
Dh may not be as opposed as I think, he said we can have a talk about it on the weekend. He wanted to wait till ds2 is six months before we discuss it. I'm hoping talking it over with him might clarify things a bit.
I also shudder at the thought of what I might be letting myself in for going through fertility treatment again, that's a huge put off. Plus the risk of miscarrying again, morning sickness, worrying about the 12 week scan, the 20 week scan, the birth, the first three months! Just thinking about it is exhausting.
I still feel very confused, but I think the drive to procreate is most likely to win out in the end I actually think I'm confused because I kind of know I'm going to push ahead and do it when I think it's not a sensible or rational thing to do, and I worry about having regrets if it doesn't work out (if I can't get pg again, or if we lose a baby).
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I actually think I'm confused because I kind of know I'm going to push ahead and do it when I think it's not a sensible or rational thing to do, and I worry about having regrets if it doesn't work out (if I can't get pg again, or if we lose a baby).
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