Thanks you guys!
Marcellus, I really like your advice. I know what you mean - sort of - when things slip into focus and you have a bit of an "a-ha" moment. It's been a while since I've had one. My mind is kind of running the show, with loads of unhelpful thoughts. But it is true that other people and other people's lives ... well, they really are logically unrelated to one's own life. In the sense that their luck is not my misfortune. But the mind plays tricks and makes it seem that way.
CrazyCat, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. That sounds incredibly tough. I admire you for your attitude - just focusing on you and the baby. I really empathise with your "why me" feelings. I'm wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy and your baby's arrival.
And Mildez, thank you so much. You just put into words so much of what I feel. I'm also wishing you all the best for now and the future, and some relief from your anxiety and pain.
All the best ladies,
WW