Why do I STILL feel this way????

[butterfly_warrior]

Thanks guys.

I think what is annoying me too is that people keep telling me that I'll probably fall pregnant naturally now that I've done IVF. And whilst that is a lovely romantic notion, it's unlikely to happen as my fallopian tubes are so blocked they might as well not be there.

Good to know I'm not alone xxxx

You're definitely not alone. Two years on and it still hurts. Probably because the state of my health means that more children isn't going to be an option.

I also get really mad about the "you'll probably fall naturally now" comments. It does completely invalidate what you've been through. People tell me that my body knows what to do now that I've carried and birthed one child. Hmmm... don't think that has any influence on DH's mutant sperm or the fact that I needed three different drugs to sustain a pregnancy (and am now only taking one of them) and the fact that my arthritis is so bad that I have to take medications that are so scary in pregnancy (category X) that even knowing about the infertility issues that both me and DH have, both my OB and my rheumy insisted that I go on the pill. Yeah, it will happen naturally now. Sure.

Don't mean to take over with my own vent, but you are most definitely not alone!

BW

[MummaSue]

Don't mean to take over with my own vent, but you are most definitely not alone!

BW

You're not taking over at all hun, kind of why I started the thread in the first place - I KNOW that you girls know what I'm on about!

[Maruschke]

The whole "your body knows what to do now" argument is really hurtful. Clearly, my body doesn't. I had a "friend", who I shared with after TTC for three cycles. She asked "OMG, what's wrong with you?". Great... it's made me not want to talk about TTC, or our plans for more kids, with anyone. My family is forever asking us when are we going to give DD1 a playmate, and I always say we aren't, just because I know how insensitive they would be if they found out.

[Coral73]

Hi Ladies,

So glad to hear that I am not alone on this one! I too feel the jealously monster rear its ugly head when hearing of anyone falling pregnant. Funny thing is, my husband feels exactly the same way!!! ...

I still keep a watchful eye on the LTTTC and 2WW threads - I'm not really sure why, I just do . I guess LTTTC really never leaves you???

Oh, and I so so agree with the whole you'll get pregnant naturally next time thing! We are lucky enough to have 5 frozen bubs and have decided to not tell anyone (bar family) when we try for our second - it's just too much pressure and I kinda want to have the experience of being able to surprise everyone that we are pregnant like normal people instead of them constantly asking how the IVF is going!

oxoxo