I had bleeding/cramping like you described and it was a subchorionic haematoma - bleeding stopped by about 10 weeks and now I have a healthy 1 year old. Bleeding is horrible and so very stressful, but it doesn't always result in a bad outcome.
Thanks everyone for your comments.
There's no suggestion that it's a SCH. I had thought that too, along with my mum. We are habitual self-diagnosers.
All I can say is that the Internet is pure evil. I'm trying to find a story of someone who had been told that this was a possibility for them, and then it was ruled out (ie a happy end) but that story isn't out there.
I guess I'm struggling to have hope because I'm finding it hard to even remember or articulate what the doctors said might be the alternative (good) diagnosis - basically, because it was super-vague, like "Oh, ah ... just a cystic area of the placenta that will eventually be taken over by healthy placenta". That certainly doesn't sound as convincing as the "partial mole" thing.
It's just become a complete reality in my mind, and I'm already grieving (plus feeling pretty ill). I wish that I could be more of an optimist, or at least, a bit more neutral like my DH. He's busy building a cat enclosure right now (our cat is being bullied). I have nearly two weeks still to get through, and most of the time I am convinced that it will be a bad outcome. I find it hard to imagine a good one. I have read so many stories of people having this condition, and most of them say it's the worst thing they've ever been through, and some of these ladies are completely fertile and got pregnant really easily anyway, you know.
It just seems a fait accomplit. I think it's because ever since this started (TTC), progressively every stage has been worse, and we have got worse and worse news/outcomes. We were the 1 per cent of people who had no eggs fertilise. Why shouldn't we be the 1 in 1000 who has this rare condition?
I feel so low right now. I know that feelings change, but I feel so sad contemplating another year of waiting and then trying again. I don't think I can do that. I think I'll probably give up then. I just think it will break me.
Trying to just get through the day right now,
WW
Worrywart have you had a scan or another BT since you first posted? The waiting sounds like torture (and I have been there myself last year) it is torture.
Has the spotting stopped or the same etc? I hope you get answers soon.
Sorry I missed a post about the ?partial mole bit. Now if it was a huge concern to them I'd imagine they would want you back in less then 2weeks so that is good that they want to wait 2weeks right? And a HB how fantastic.
With the molar pregnancies I have known there has not been a HB (although I have heard of when there has been) and usually its either diagnosed later on when its obvious or from tissue sample after a D&C as bub hasn't had a HB.
The trick thing with ultrasounds is until they get to a certain size so many things look like something they are not. With a scan I had to rule out ectopic pregnancy they could see 2 sacs in the uterus with no fetal poles however the pregnancy was ectopic after all (they discovered this 4weeks after the first scan which said the gestational sacs were in the uterus but empty) then they turned around and said it was probably mucos although the report said they were gestation sacs. Some haemorrage like a SCH or a blob of mucous or uterus lining could be seen something else IYKWIM. I know this is not making it any easier but just trying to show how there is still a really good chance you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy once this hurdle is overcome and if they did indeed think the pregnancy was molar or partial they wouldn't want to continue doing nothing for another 2weeks.
I am praying so hard for you that you have your bub safe and sound in another 7-7.5months
Thanks, Mildez. Your comments are actually really helpful. I suppose I sometimes think of doctors as these objective infallible scientists who can diagnose as the merest hint of some grey blob on a screen.
Sorry to hear about your experience with the scans and the ectopic. That must have been very hard.
Thanks for praying too. I am trying to do that a bit, as much as I can.
WW
Hi Worrywort,
I don't have any advice other than I am thinking and praying of you and so sorry you have to experience such stress. The internet is truly awfus as you can spend so long trying to find something to tell you a situation is OK. Just know we are all stronger than we realise, and I hope your little one is strong too and in a couple of weeks this will be a memory.
xxx
Can I make a suggestion - feel free to take it or leave it. If it were me (& I am a worrier too) I would book myself into a fetal medicine unit and have a specialist look. It's so true what another poster said about the ultrasounds being so difficult to decipher so early. The better the machine, the more experienced the operator the more likely you are to have a more positive diagnosis.
This is most definitely what I would be doing. You are going to make yourself sick if you continue on for another 14 days this way. Just an idea.
Sending you all my support and love.
ETA: Also what were your Bhcg levels? This can also be a pointer... Just a thought.
Hi everyone,
Well, thanks so much for prayers and support which must have worked.
We had our scan today, and the doctor has said it's not a mole, but perhaps some of my blood vessels which are a bit prominent.
The fetus is developing well, she said, and we have a photo.
We are just so relieved and happy to have a further chance with this little one.
Thanks again so much everyone for your words of support.
WW
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