9 weeks and have a bit of blood

[AnnaBelle]

I am so very sorry Munchy

[ElleJay]

I am so very sorry Munchy

I'm with AnnaBelle - I'm so very sorry for your loss *big big hugs*

[Inanna]

I am so sorry that your little one flew away... Sending you big hugs and lots of love.

[munchy]

Thanks everyone for all your support i am just lost with what to do with myself my world has been urned upside down again and just struggling still feel numb about it all have been booked in for D&C for next wed thought they could have got it earlier for me. there is no blood or brown stuff all is normal thats why it feels a bit sureal but just scared to go toilet all the time and feel like i am on my own with it all also hospital asked what they would like me to do with the remians of my baby as in england its against the law to throw any away so my options are take baby home with me put it in fridge or freezer till i decide what to do or they cremate baby with or without me there now taking baby home is not an option dont like the idea of having baby in my fridge or frezzer just doesnt seem right so i am gonna get baby cremated but hubby doesnt want to go and i feel like how can i not go to my own babys service if they are gonna do one anyway so not sure what to do just dont want to make desicons right now but i have to also how much time off work do people have for things like this my doc has signed me off for next week for me to then return on the 3rd when i dont have surgery till wed 27th sorry to go on thanks agian for listning and all your surport xxx

[~StarBright~]

munchy, my heart is in peices for you.. I am soo sorry!!!

I would go to the service, do you have a close girlfriend or a sister or your mum who m,ight want to come with you? I can understand Dh not wanting to attend, sadly its one of those things where often men and women grieve and handle things differently- as i am sure you know... but if you want to go, i think you should.

as for going back to work, that will depend on how nice your boss is, and how much time your dr can give you- i know after my d &c i had a week off from the day of the surgery, but after a few days back i asked for another week- more for the emotional pain then physical,(sadly similar to you, i suffered my missed mic about a year or so after my 18 week loss) i had a nice dr who agreed that i should take as much time as i needed, and my bosses were understanding, even though i hadnt been working for them when i lost Darren, they knew about him and what i had been through. Here is alittle of what happene to me with my missed m/c.....

I was very slow to bleed too, as is the way with missed m/c, it started on the friday night, just a slight bleed (brownish) and when i went to emerency they couldnt find a heartbeat but said it could just be coz its hard to find, go home and rest and if it gets worse come back... (yeah thanks) i spent the whole weekend with slight tiny amounts of bleeding-all brown blood- which the dr kept telling me was a good sign it wasnt a m/c, just a bit of old blood passing through when went to another emergency hospital on the monday.I started getting a bit of cramping at lunch time and finally got in for a scan ( iwent in at 8am, got my scan appt at 3:30- really fun day)i went to the loo in the radilogist and at that instant i got my first bit of red bleeding and i knew what they were going to say... i was m/c. They told me my little bubba had never got a heart beat. I still wasnt bleeding heavily and they said it had been sitting in there doormant for up to 5 weeks and so they booked me in for a d & c the next day. I bled quite a bit after the d&c, for at least 10 days i think, (very heavy and very red sorry TMI)

My heart goes out to you at this time munchy, i understand your fear of going to the loo, and i cant beleive they are making you wait till wednesday.

I can only say that i hope physically things go smoothly for you, and emotionally, take your time and grieve for this little bubba who is very special to you.

Take care, i am thinking of you xoxoxoxo

Love StarBright xoxoxo

[munchy]

thank you so much starbright

your story sounds so similar to mine when i was having scan cos i was ment to be 10 weeks they done normal belly scan and she said i can see a sack but nothing inside so can you go to toilet and i will do an internal one so went toilet and when i wiped there was lots of pink and i thought when i go back into that room its not gonna be good news i no it and she said i am so sorry its not good news and that was it i couldnt stop crying i asked to see and i could see the clear sack and baby inside i could see its little head and the nubs that were gonna be hand and feet she said everything is there but the heartbeat she said it stopped at around 7 wks 2 days and i had a scan at 7 weeks where you could see the heart flicker so it must have stopped 2 days after me seeing it which hurts even more i cant stop thinking why did it stop its just to hard. well my cramps are getting worse but bleeding has stoped again its just on and off mainly pink i just think either do it naturaly now or just dont give me any pain and wait till wed. i just want wed to come round or for them to have a cancelation i dont want to go out anywhere just incase i start bleeding heavey or something. as to service my friends and that have said they will come with me but im not sure what to do still if i m/c naturaly then wont need to make desicon so will wait and see. and as to work i dont think i can go back 4 days after having d&c but if i feel like i cant then i will go back and ask for another week off i will just see how i feel at the time one more question for everyone di you get hot flushes when going through this as last night i keep burning up really bad my face was so red then it would go away then come back just a bit weird. thanks again everyone.

Munchy xxx

[Lady_Penelope]

Munchy - my heart goes out to you. This is unbelievably cruel and I really hope you can get some good support emotionally.
Tracy