munchy, my heart is in peices for you.. I am soo sorry!!!

I would go to the service, do you have a close girlfriend or a sister or your mum who m,ight want to come with you? I can understand Dh not wanting to attend, sadly its one of those things where often men and women grieve and handle things differently- as i am sure you know... but if you want to go, i think you should.

as for going back to work, that will depend on how nice your boss is, and how much time your dr can give you- i know after my d &c i had a week off from the day of the surgery, but after a few days back i asked for another week- more for the emotional pain then physical,(sadly similar to you, i suffered my missed mic about a year or so after my 18 week loss) i had a nice dr who agreed that i should take as much time as i needed, and my bosses were understanding, even though i hadnt been working for them when i lost Darren, they knew about him and what i had been through. Here is alittle of what happene to me with my missed m/c.....

I was very slow to bleed too, as is the way with missed m/c, it started on the friday night, just a slight bleed (brownish) and when i went to emerency they couldnt find a heartbeat but said it could just be coz its hard to find, go home and rest and if it gets worse come back... (yeah thanks) i spent the whole weekend with slight tiny amounts of bleeding-all brown blood- which the dr kept telling me was a good sign it wasnt a m/c, just a bit of old blood passing through when went to another emergency hospital on the monday.I started getting a bit of cramping at lunch time and finally got in for a scan ( iwent in at 8am, got my scan appt at 3:30- really fun day)i went to the loo in the radilogist and at that instant i got my first bit of red bleeding and i knew what they were going to say... i was m/c. They told me my little bubba had never got a heart beat. I still wasnt bleeding heavily and they said it had been sitting in there doormant for up to 5 weeks and so they booked me in for a d & c the next day. I bled quite a bit after the d&c, for at least 10 days i think, (very heavy and very red sorry TMI)

My heart goes out to you at this time munchy, i understand your fear of going to the loo, and i cant beleive they are making you wait till wednesday.

I can only say that i hope physically things go smoothly for you, and emotionally, take your time and grieve for this little bubba who is very special to you.

Take care, i am thinking of you xoxoxoxo

Love StarBright xoxoxo