Kirley, I'm sorry for your previous losses. It really is tough with pg after loss. I think that any subsequent pg after a loss, is quite often over shadowed by the grief for one we couldn't keep. There is the constant longing to have the baby back we've lost. Then there is the fear that something is going to go wrong (I think that's why many feel that they better not get too attached in case something goes wrong again). In my own experience, my first pg was quite unexpected (we did IVF & we were told that it usually takes a few goes to get pg, so when we got pg on the first go I was quite unprepared for it). I felt that I wasn't connecting to the baby as much as I should, quite frankly I didn't know if I was ready for a baby that I thought I was really ready for! So I sort of took the pg for granted. I ended up losing my little boy at 21 weeks into my pg. I felt so guilty for not connecting to him and for not enjoying my pg more. When I got pg the second time with my current DS, I made a very concious effort to connect more to the baby and enjoy the pg as much as possible, even though I was freaking out that I'd lose this one too. Now that you are pg again, I would enjoy it as much as possible, so you don't regret later not connecting to the baby when it's born. Hope that made sense xox