LittleOne - sending you lots of easy labour vibes. I hope it all goes well. Let us know how you and bub are when you can
Kirsten - I understand the anxiety and fear, the frustration of not knowing what's going on and trying to prepare yourself for the worst. I wish I could assure you it gets better, but I think it's temporary tbh. Even though we saw bub on Friday and we're further along than last pg, there's an insidious voice in my head telling me I can never be sure, how would I know, etc. I also had days when symptoms disappeared, which had me extremely stressed and reliving our loss. I never got m/s, so there was never many symptoms to rely on anyway. I hope everything goes well on Friday and you see bub h/b. I can't remember how far along you are, sorry.
Sparkles - it's so hard to stay positive when it feels like you're body is telling you things are bad.... I don't know if hearing about others spotting and everything being OK helps or not. It is normal. Can you get a couple of blood tests to see if hcg is OK? I ended up going to the Early Pregnancy Centre at the Royal Womens after spotting for a week. They gave me a scan & I was positive it would be bad news, but everything was OK (it gave me about 5 days relief before I started panicking again) I also discovered that my anxiety was pushing my blood pressure up to dangerous levels, which isn't good for Mum & bub. As my midwife kept telling me, worrying won't change the outcome. Try to meditate or do positive affirmations if it can help you stay calm. Get tests and scans if it helps you stay calm.
I hope everyone else is well.
I'm OK, just still very tired all the time. I'm trying to increase my exercise. I'd kind of stopped in fear of hurting bub, so want to get back into it. It should also help with the fatigue and stress. Today my GP perscribed relaxation CDs She wants me to do them to reduce the level of cortisol I'm producing from being anxious all the time. I've discoverd no matter what the scan etc says, I only get a few days relief before the "what ifs" start again (what if we still lose the baby, what if there turns out to be something wrong?) something I'm just going to have to manage.
The other thing is now I actually realise we may have a baby in 6 months Now what am I supposed to do? What's all this stuff they need? How will we manage on 1 income? Will I lose my identity, my self-confidence when I'm not working? I don't do sleep deprivation. What if I don't cope?....etc, etc. so it turns out I'm a worrier, no matter if things are going well or not. So I think I WILL get those CDs
I understand the anxiety and fear, the frustration of not knowing what's going on and trying to prepare yourself for the worst. I wish I could assure you it gets better, but I think it's temporary tbh. Even though we saw bub on Friday and we're further along than last pg, there's an insidious voice in my head telling me I can never be sure, how would I know, etc. I also had days when symptoms disappeared, which had me extremely stressed and reliving our loss. I never got m/s, so there was never many symptoms to rely on anyway. I hope everything goes well on Friday and you see bub h/b. I can't remember how far along you are, sorry.
She wants me to do them to reduce the level of cortisol I'm producing from being anxious all the time. I've discoverd no matter what the scan etc says, I only get a few days relief before the "what ifs" start again (what if we still lose the baby, what if there turns out to be something wrong?)
something I'm just going to have to manage.
Now what am I supposed to do? What's all this stuff they need? How will we manage on 1 income? Will I lose my identity, my self-confidence when I'm not working? I don't do sleep deprivation. What if I don't cope?....etc, etc. so it turns out I'm a worrier, no matter if things are going well or not. So I think I WILL get those CDs
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