Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss June 2010

[dory]

Reading all your posts reminded me of just how tough this journey is.... and the fear is so palpable and literally jumps off of the page.... I remember those feelings well.... the deep sense of foreboing, the misery. It does get less intense as the pregnancy progresses, or at least it did for me. It's still hard, but less intense. Having been there, relatively recently, I offer you my support, my love, and my strategy. My strategy, was to be thankful for each day I was pregnant. I couldn't always actually feel that way, but I would try, by rubbing my belly, telling bubs I believed, even if only for that moment. And I spent a lot of time here on BB sharing my feelings and also trying to avoid them by sleeping when I could. Keep as strong as you can girls. You will make it through these dark scary times.

Hoping - good luck today sweetie. Thinking of you....

Possum - just keep treading water, every moment that you can keep your head above the water is a good day. Oh, and if you can, go and hide under the covers and escape for a while....it might help.

Teagm - welcome... and congratulations on your pregnancy! As you know from both the way you feel and what other people are posting, pregnancy after loss is exceptionally challenging. Try to find any way you can to get through..... you'll find the ladies here very understanding and supportive. And we don't mind if the crazy lady comes out... here is one of the safer places for her to come out. Look forward to sharing this journey with you.

Murray - have your feet touched the ground yet or are you still walking on air? Has Samcougar popped in here yet to say hi ( She is about 4/5 weeks now.....)?

Ashie - you'll get there.....

Elise - I know it sounds like I am gushing, but I am just so excited for you.... I just love that you're over 30! it's not often in this journey that we are happy to hear that huh? I can't beleive I've made it to "3rd base" - the 3rd tri.

Audax - it is so much easier to direct when you have a "hose"......you'd think with all that POAS practice we'd be better but I have no sense of direction. Anyway, just glad you could hang on and there were no accidents.

Hiya to everyone else - Angel, SammyP, Crumpet, MillyD, Ric, Mo4, Kit.

AFM - I am excited - just about to head out to the hairdresser. Hoping that it will help me overcome my slump. I mean one way to feel good about yourself is to think you look good.... Am nervous about being out, but decided on balance I needed to do it. Fingers Crossed. Thanks for all your kind words of support.... I appreciate them.

[Hoping]

Well i had my scan and no heart beat yet, they said i am too early as the egg sack only measure around 5 1/2 weeks. So again i play the waiting game. I am a little concerned as according to my dates i should be around 6 1/2 weeks. I lost my last little bub at 5 1/2 weeks and i am really scared this little one isn't going to grow anymore too.

So they are sending me back for another scan in a couple of weeks. Keeping my fingers crossed.

[India's Mum]

Hi Hoping - I had a similar thing where I was supposed to be 7 weeks and the sac only measured 5.3 weeks. When I went back two weeks later they found an embryo with a good strong heartbeat though they said it only measured 6 weeks. I think some of these early scans are a bit confusing and can be misleading. My doctor said they can be a week out even at this stage. Hope things go smoothly in the next two weeks and you get to see your bub and a good heartbeat.

[milly5]

Hello ladies!!

Hi ashie and welcome!!

Murray cod - fab news!!!

Audax - so funny about your DH and walking into a wall!

possum magic - huge hugs. I'm hoping all is well, good news about the heartbeat, sad that you may have lossed a twin

angelfish - I'm keeping evrything crossed for you

Dory - glad to see you back, and sorry that you have been feeling low. How does your hair look? Did you get a new do?

Hi Tegam!!

to all of the ladies in the early stages - it is so hard in the beginning, I know I felt miserable the whole time, and it is unfair, because we should all be feeling happy, but instead all we feel is fear. But it does get better ladies.

Hi to all the other ladies - there's now so many of us, too many to name!!

AFM - had another ob appt today, all going well, spud's head is down and bum up so that's good. And I talked to my ob about some aspects of my birthplan, which he is really supportive of, so I am feeling quite pleased now

[Tegam]

Hi Tegam: Welcome to the thread. Great to hear your good news. I can understand why hearing about others' losses is difficult. But you have had a rough time already this year so hopefully now it is your turn for a smooth ride. How far along are you?

AFM: Saw my OB today. He had the scan report and did his own scan today. Baby looks fine but i've had quite a lot of bleeding today both before and after i saw the OB so i'm feeling miserable. I just can't believe that this much blood can have a happy ending I really want this baby but feel like i'm not destined to have it. I hate this sense of doom too. I know it doesn't help. I wish i could hide under the covers and come out in about 5 wks (with good news of course!) Sorry for 'me' rant.

Thanks for your kind words Possium, even more special seeing you yourself said that you are having a bad day. I am sorry to hear that you are bleeding! That must be very stressful, but i cant believe how common it is in early pregnancy, there are so many ladies that think the worse and then hear that heartbeat at the next visit! You are in my thoughts!

Well done for coming over Tegam! It's a good place to be... I find it pretty hard to discuss this pg with anyone who hasn't "been there" which includes MIL and SIL. It's hard.

Thanks Audax and Hi!

Reading all your posts reminded me of just how tough this journey is.... and the fear is so palpable g, the misery. It does get less intense as the pregnancy progresses, or at least it did for me. It's still hard, but less intense.

Teagm - welcome... and congratulations on your pregnancy! As you know from both the way you feel and what other people are posting, pregnancy after loss is exceptionally challenging. Try to find any way you can to get through..... you'll find the ladies here very understanding and supportive. And we don't mind if the crazy lady comes out... here is one of the safer places for her to come out. Look forward to sharing this journey with you.

AFM - I am excited - just about to head out to the hairdresser. Hoping that it will help me overcome my slump. I mean one way to feel good about yourself is to think you look good.... Am nervous about being out, but decided on balance I needed to do it. Fingers Crossed. Thanks for all your kind words of support.... I appreciate them.

Hi Dory: thanks for the welcome. Im sure you will all meet my crazy lady soon! Its nice to know there is somewhere you can just be you no matter how pretty its going to be LOL

Hope the hair dresser was as good as you hoped! Did you change styles?

Well i had my scan and no heart beat yet, they said i am too early as the egg sack only measure around 5 1/2 weeks. So again i play the waiting game. I am a little concerned as according to my dates i should be around 6 1/2 weeks. I lost my last little bub at 5 1/2 weeks and i am really scared this little one isn't going to grow anymore too.

So they are sending me back for another scan in a couple of weeks. Keeping my fingers crossed.

Hoping: i has a scan at 5weeks 4days with this bubs to check it wasnt another ectopic. They couldnt see a heartbeat and it looked smaller for dates and i knew my days were perfect! Lets just say it was a long wait til the 8week scan that showed a perfect size baby and heartbeat! I know you are worried but hang in there!

Hi Tegam!!

to all of the ladies in the early stages - it is so hard in the beginning, I know I felt miserable the whole time, and it is unfair, because we should all be feeling happy, but instead all we feel is fear. But it does get better ladies.

AFM - had another ob appt today, all going well, spud's head is down and bum up so that's good. And I talked to my ob about some aspects of my birthplan, which he is really supportive of, so I am feeling quite pleased now

Glad that the OB is supportive of your birthplan. It must be exciting for you to be at that stage of the pregnancy!


AFM: In just one day i have become an emotional wreak! I feel weak and ashamed that i have lost all faith so easily in this little bubba. I think ill be better after my scan next week. Will be almost 13weeks and just need to see bubs happy! Lucky poor DH is away until monday night, i dont think the poor man needs to be around me when i am so emotional! LOL... Hope you are all well and thank you for the welcome.

Hey quick question, when did or will you all start to tell people you are having a baby? I have so many people close to me that were so supportive of my Ectopic at the start of the year that i feel like i am letting them down not telling them that i have fallen again. I mean people know we are trying but i just cant face talking about it just. Like if i keep it to myself it can just be my little dream... But i know there is a point that is too late to tell people, what do you all think?

[angelfish]

Dory: I hope all went well with getting your hair done.

Hoping: i am keeping my fingers crossed for you that everything goes well .

Milly5: I am happy to hear that your dr appt went well its good to hear some good news gives some hope that things can go right.

Teagam:Its hard when you get bad news or something dispaointing news not to lossing faith. Good luck with your scan next week i will be thinking of you and your little bubba and keeping my fingers crossed.

AFM: Yes i am coming out of my hiding spot under my rock. No more spotting but it only seems to happen at night the cramping comes and goes. Apart of me can't for monday when i get my u/s but apart of me does not want to go to hear bad news.
And i just want to say thankyou for making me so welcome here its been an emotioal rollercoaster and i am sure that it will be either way until its all over with then another rollercoaster. To be honest i dont have any family to turn to and my b/f is not really supportive at all he is always saying that i am going to get myself so upset that i am going to cause a misscarriage, not really what i want to hear.

[Hoping]

Thanks ladies,

its nice to know some of you have been in the same position and everything turned out well. I just hate waiting but theres not much else i can do but wait. Wouldn't it be great if ywe could do an at home ultrasound to see how little bubs are developing, it sure would take some of that stress away!

[~MummaBear~]

AFM: Yes i am coming out of my hiding spot under my rock. No more spotting but it only seems to happen at night the cramping comes and goes. Apart of me can't for monday when i get my u/s but apart of me does not want to go to hear bad news.
And i just want to say thankyou for making me so welcome here its been an emotioal rollercoaster and i am sure that it will be either way until its all over with then another rollercoaster. To be honest i dont have any family to turn to and my b/f is not really supportive at all he is always saying that i am going to get myself so upset that i am going to cause a misscarriage, not really what i want to hear.

I dont have much time to reply right now lol but i really wanted to let you know that i had 3 weeks of bleeding in this pregnancy starting at 8 weeks. the thing i thought you should know is that i was fine during the day and at 8pm ish the bleeding would start every night.
i went to Drs i went to the hospital i did everything and no one believed me. Anyway i just thought you would like to know that! and now im almost 17 weeks and havent had any bleeding since!
hang int here chick... this PAML gig is a hard road!